An anal orgasm is exactly what it sounds like — orgasm that’s achieved through anal stimulation.

We’re talking touching, licking, fingering, penetration, and more. If it feels good, anything goes!

Curious? Read on to learn more about this backdoor wonder and how to bring your body to orgasm.

Everyone! If you have a butt and you want it touched, butt play is for you.

Sometimes. Cisgender men and people assigned male at birth have a prostate, so in these cases a butt orgasm results from stimulating the prostate.

You can stimulate the P-spot through the perineum, which is the runway of skin between the balls and the anus.

If you prefer direct touch, you’ll need to head inside through the anus — about two inches.

This is how anal orgasms work for cisgender women and people assigned female at birth. Anal penetration indirectly stimulates the A-spot in the vagina.

The A-spot, or anterior fornix if you want to get fancy, is located deep inside the vagina — around 5 or 6 inches in.

It’s an area filled with erotically charged nerve endings that have the ability to make you very wet, very fast.

It feels like intense waves of pleasure that begin deep inside your body and radiate through the rest of your body. In other words: Ah-mazing.

Minor discomfort the first couple of times is normal as you adjust to being penetrated back there. It shouldn’t cause severe pain.

Sex on the fly is fun, but when it comes to anal play, a little prep can help make the experience better for the receiver and the giver.

If you’re the receiving partner

Being relaxed and aroused are key, especially if this is your first foray into butt play.

Here are some ideas and other tips to get you started:

  • Indulge in something erotic. The more turned on you are, the easier and more enjoyable butt play will be. Watch porn, listen to an erotic story, or just close your eyes and fantasize.
  • Take a hot bath. A hot bath before anal play will help loosen tight muscles and increase blood flow to all your bits. Use bath time to give your erogenous zones a good rub-a-dub and show your anus some love while you wash up.
  • Practice with a butt plug. Sex toys can help you get a feel for anal play before experimenting with your partner. Take things slow and enjoy the feeling of the toy teasing your butt before inserting it.
  • Stock up on lube. There’s no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal. It isn’t just about the delightful slip and slide, but also an important part of anal sex safety.

If you’re the giving partner

As the giver, you need to bring your A-game. A little prep can help you help them have that anal orgasm:

  • Groom those hands. Trim and file your nails to prevent tearing delicate skin. Short nails also mean less space for dirt and bacteria to hide. While we’re on the subject of bacteria, don’t forget to wash your hands thoroughly before going in. You could also wear latex gloves, and for extra comfort insert some cotton balls.
  • Use a condom. Condoms can be used on a butt toy and fingers, as well as a penis. If you want to use your tongue, a condom can also be cut open and used as an alternative to a dental dam. This isn’t just to prevent STIs, but also to nip the ick factor in the bud if you or your partner is nervous.
  • Get in the mood. Foreplay can help get you both ready for what’s to come and make entry into that special spot easier. Touching, kissing, and licking the buttocks and the area around the anus is a good way to get the party started.

You’ll probably have to play with different techniques to find what works, but playing is half the fun anyway.

Here are some moves to try with whether you’re using your tongue, fingers, penis, toys, or a combo of them all.

With your tongue

Your tongue may not be able to directly stimulate the P-spot or A-spot, but it sure can work wonders on the rest of the perianal area and many other erogenous zones.

Use the tip of your tongue to tease the cheeks before working your way between them. Swirl your tongue around the anus for a moment and then push the tip into the opening, darting it in and out.

With your fingers

  • Come hither. Slowly insert your lubed finger into the anus and curl your finger upward in a “come hither” motion. Gradually increase the depth and speed — and, if desired, try inserting a second finger. Once you find a depth and pace that feels good, continue the motion and allow the pleasure to build.
  • Doorbell. From the inside or outside, find the spot that makes them go “oooh” with your finger and press your finger pad against it as if ringing a doorbell. Start with light pressure, gradually increasing the pressure and speed.
  • Circling. Rub the pad of your finger in a circular motion in the area of the A-spot or P-spot. Start circling the area slowly and gradually pick up the pace at your partner’s request — or based on their oohs and ahs. Play with pressure, as well as speed, to find the magic combo.
  • Simulated vibration. A little hard on the wrist, but if you speed up any move fast enough you can simulate vibration. Save this for when they’re close to the brink to avoid carpal tunnel.

With your penis, a strap-on, or other sex toy

  • Pressure. Applying more or less pressure can help you find the sweet spot.
  • Depth. No two butts are exactly alike, so play with depth to figure out how deep you need to go to hit the right spot. Take it slow and gentle —unless you get the OK to do more.
  • Vibrations. You can find vibrating massagers with different vibe and pulse settings. Try out the different combos to find what works best. Up the vibration when climax is near to take things over the edge.
  • Internal/external. Some sex toys work double duty thanks to an external vibe that stimulates the perineum or clitoris during penetration. You can also buy a dual penetrator vibrator to DP the anus and vag at the same time. Can we get a hallelujah!

An anal orgasm may be your goal, but don’t let that stop you from making use of all of the other hot spots a body has to offer!

Stimulate one or more to aim for a combo orgasm:

  • Clitoral. You can show the clit some love during anal play whether you’re the giver or the receiver. Use your hand, fingers, or a toy to slide up and down and side to side over the clit and hood.
  • Vaginal. A finger or toy can provide some DP action to penetrate the vagina while the butt’s receiving some love. Try the “come hither” move and you just might hit the elusive G-spot, too.
  • Penile. A good ol’ fashioned hand job is an easy add-on to anal play for the giver or receiver. Grasp the penis and stroke the entire length of the shaft, picking up the pace as climax approaches.
  • Erogenous zones. The body has dozens of potentially pleasurable zones craving some action. Use your hands or toy to explore the rest of your body, lingering on those that feel best. Try usual suspects like the neck, breasts, and scrotum or those less-explored like the backs of the knees, small of the back, and inner arms.

You can make any of the usual sex positions ass-friendly. Here’s how.


To do this by yourself:

  1. Lie facedown.
  2. Reach your arm behind you and rest it on your back.
  3. Reach your perineum or anus with your finger.
  4. Tease and insert at your leisure.

To do this with a partner:

  1. Lie facedown with your arms at your sides and legs slightly apart.
  2. Have them sit next to you on the side most comfortable for them.
  3. Have them gently massage your anus.

On your side, one leg to chest

To do this by yourself:

  1. Lie on your side.
  2. Bring your outer leg up toward your chest.
  3. Reach your hand around to your anus.
  4. Take your time to explore and stimulate as desired.

To do this with a partner:

  1. Lie on your side.
  2. Bring your outer leg toward your chest.
  3. Have them sit behind you to reach your anus.


To do this by yourself:

  1. Get down on all fours.
  2. Reach your arm between your legs or around your back to reach your anus.
  3. Massage and penetrate as slowly or as urgently as you’d like.

To do this with a partner:

  1. Get down on all fours.
  2. Have them kneel behind you to reach your anus.


To do this by yourself:

  1. Stabilize your dildo, vibrator, or other penetrative toy on the seat of a chair or other flat surface.
  2. Straddle the chair or gently kneel down so that your butt is hovering just above the toy.
  3. Slowly lower down and gradually insert the toy until you find the depth that feels best for you.

To do this with a partner:

  1. Have them lie on their back.
  2. Straddle them — or their well-positioned toy — with your knees on either side of their hips and your hands on the bed or floor.
  3. Lower your butt and use your hips and hands to control the depth.

Here are a few other things to consider before heading to B-town for some butt play.

The anus doesn’t self-lubricate

It just doesn’t — at least not in the same the way as a vagina.

Your anus is located at the end of your rectum, which is part of your digestive tract. The mucus membrane that lines the rectum contains glands that produce mucus to protect your digestive tract.

Anal mucus is sometimes secreted when you have a bowel movement or during anal stimulation, but the amount of mucus secreted — if any — isn’t enough to help penetration.

Lube is a MUST

We can’t stress this enough. If you’re going to partake in anal play, you have to use lube.

Without it, getting anything into the butt won’t just be painful — it can also be dangerous.

Rough entry can lead to skin tears and increase your risk of sexually transmitted and other infections.

A silicone or water-based lube works just fine and is safe for use with condoms and sex toys.

Although pregnancy isn’t possible, STIs are

Anorectal STIs are on the rise, and the risk is higher for those on the receiving end.

Small tears in the delicate skin in and around the anus increase the risk of transmission of STIs, including:

Other bacteria can be spread, too

Butt play can expose you to more than just STIs.

Bacteria such as Shigella, E. coli, and Campylobacter are transmitted through feces, and contact with poop is a very real possibility even if you can’t see it.

Without a condom, one can also contract:

Never go back to front without cleaning and getting a fresh condom

Again, this is about the poop. The bacteria in feces can wreak havoc on the urinary tract, so if you decide to mix it up with oral or penis-in-vagina sex, you need to wash up and put on a new condom.

The bottom can be loads of fun, and an anal orgasm is worth pursuing. Even if you don’t have one, chances are you’ll have some type of orgasm along the way. Be prepared, go slow, and enjoy all the pleasure the butt has to offer.

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