Is using a condom or dental dam really necessary?
Oral sex may not pose pregnancy risks, but it’s far from “safe” sex. You can still pass sexually transmitted infections (STIs) between you and your partner.
Here’s what you should know about oral STIs, how to talk to your partner about protection, how to make this a part of foreplay, and more.
To date, research on contracting STIs other than HIV during oral sex
is limited. Even less research is available regarding STI transmission after performing vaginal or anal oral sex.
So what do we know? The following STIs are commonly passed through oral sex:
The following infections occur less frequently as a result of oral sex:
- human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)
- hepatitis A, B, and C
- genital warts, which are typically caused by human papillomavirus (HPV)
- pubic lice
The following infections can be transmitted through oral sex, but the overall likelihood is unclear:
Having an open and honest conversation can facilitate greater intimacy and understanding in your sexual relationships. If you and your partner can clear the air and get on the same page before anything happens — or worse, before misunderstandings occur — you may find it easier to relax and enjoy the moment.
Some people report that condoms or dental dams have an unpleasant taste. You may be able to minimize this by opting for a material other than latex or polyurethane. Lubricant and other additives can also affect the taste. Whether this is a good thing depends on the lube in question. Pre-lubricated condoms, for example, often have an unpleasant taste. Start with something unlubricated and go from there. If the taste is still troubling, consider adding an edible, flavored lube to the mix. Just make sure the lube is compatible with barrier material and safe for ingestion.
Despite what you may have heard, you’ll still be able to feel pressure, warmth, and movement. In fact, one person says that oral sex with a condom feels “about 80 percent there.” They went on to say that the overall sensation is on par with what they experience during vaginal intercourse. For some, slightly muted sensation may be a bonus. If you typically find oral sex too stimulating, using a barrier method may help prolong your endurance.
- Size matters. Ill-fitting condoms may slip, tear, or otherwise allow fluid to leak out and expose skin.
- Lubricant is optional. Although pre-lubricated condoms may have an unpleasant taste, added lubricant may help mask the taste of the material.
- Spermicide is risky. You should never use a condom that has added nonoxynol-9 spermicide. N-9 can numb your mouth, which, may result in unexpected injury.
You can use an outside condom to cover the penis during oral sex. Inside condoms and dental dams can be used to protect the vagina and anus. If you don’t have a dental dam handy, you can create your own using an inside or outside condom. Simply snip the tip and the rolled end of the condom off, then slice down the length of the condom. Unroll the material and place it on the vagina or anus before performing oral sex. In a real pinch, you can use plastic wrap. Just keep in mind that’s not what it’s intended for, and no studies have looked at how effective it is at preventing STI transmission.
- Minimize effort. Open the condom or dental dam package before foreplay. This way you don’t have to stop the action to get to it. You can reach right over and retrieve it.
- Reward the rolling. Your mouth shouldn’t come into contact with any fluids before a barrier method is in place, so use your hands to place the condom or dam, and then quickly follow behind with your tongue.
Do: Use a new condom if you want to move on to penetration.
Condoms are a one-use-only protection method. If you’re ready to move to vaginal or anal penetration, remove the condom and apply a new one.
Don’t: Use your teeth to apply the condom.
You might not see it, but your teeth can puncture tiny holes in the condom or dam. That can leave you open to contact with fluids that can carry STIs.
Do: Consider flavored lube to help mask the unpleasant taste or smell.
Flavored lubricants may help cover the barrier’s “flavor” and make performing oral sex more pleasant. Just make sure the lube is appropriate for oral use and works with the barrier material. Water- and silicone-based lubes are generally compatible with condom materials.
Don’t: Use foods as lube.
The oils in foods can break down latex and polyurethane, which may make the condom or dam rip or tear during oral sex. Stick with approved products, not chocolate sauces.
Do: Use before making any contact with fluids.
You may think avoiding ejaculation will help you avoid an STI, but you can transmit these bacteria and viruses long before climax occurs. Put the condom or dam in place as soon as you’re planning to touch the genitals or anal area.