Raising healthy eaters can feel overwhelming, especially as children begin to assert their own opinions about food.
Creating healthy eating patterns for children is important for optimal growth and development, building a healthy immune system, and reducing the risk of chronic diseases later in life (
Children over the age of 1 will get most of their nutrition from solid food, and it’s important they eat foods from a variety of food groups to meet their vitamin and mineral needs (
That means eating protein-rich foods, carbs, fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats. The amount of each food group will vary by age, gender, and activity level (
However, kids like what they already know, and getting them to try new foods or make sure they’re eating from all food groups can be challenging.
This guide helps you understand what you need to know and how to raise healthy, competent eaters.
An important note
If you are concerned about your child’s eating habits, always speak to a doctor and consider working with a registered pediatric dietitian or other child feeding expert.
Building healthy meal patterns for kids starts at home. You can do many things as a parent to encourage healthy eating.
Offer a wide variety of foods at each sitting
At each meal, aim to serve:
- a fruit or vegetable
- proteins like meat, fish, poultry, tofu, or beans
- starchy vegetables or grains like potatoes, sweet potatoes, bulgur, or rice
- a fat source like oils, nuts, nut butter, or avocado
Even if your child doesn’t try or like a food the first (or even third) time you serve it, continue to offer those foods at future meals or snacks. Some kids may need to be exposed to a food 8–15 times before they decide to eat it (
While the focus should be on offering mostly nutrient-dense foods, it’s important to expose kids to a wide variety of foods to help them build a healthy relationship with food.
That said, the general advice is to limit added sugar until at least 2 years of age.
After that, it’s okay for your child to occasionally enjoy foods that contain added sugar. However, aim to keep added sugar to less than 10 percent of their total calories (6).
Create a meal and snack schedule
Meal and snack schedules can play an important role in helping kids build healthy eating habits and promote overall health.
While exact schedules will vary by age, child, and family, most kids will benefit from eating three meals and two snacks (11).
Here’s an example schedule:
- Breakfast: 7 a.m.
- Snack: 9–9:30 a.m.
- Lunch: 12 p.m.
- Snack: 3 p.m.
- Dinner: 6 p.m.
Limit, but don’t restrict, less nutritious foods
Offering fun foods or those that offer less nutrition is also important to create a healthy relationship with food for kids over the age of 2. Restricting certain foods can have the opposite effect you might be aiming for (
Research shows that restricting foods (especially those that are highly palatable, like sweets and traditional snack foods) can lead to children eating more of those foods when they have access (
It may also lead to increased snacking among kids (
Food restriction is also associated with an increased risk of disordered eating, weight gain, and a preoccupation with certain foods (
Model healthy eating habits
It’s well established that kids exhibit behaviors they learn from their role models.
Therefore, if you want your kids to eat a wide variety of nutritious foods, it’s recommended that you do, too.
Implement the division of responsibility
The division of responsibility, a concept developed by Ellyn Satter, helps set roles for the parent and child on eating occasions and has been linked to healthier eating habits and less picky eating (
The division of responsibility asserts that parents and children have separate roles in eating.
It is a parent’s job to decide:
- What is served
- When meals and snacks are offered (create a meal schedule)
- Where meals occur
It’s the child’s job to decide:
- If and what they eat among the foods offered
- How much they eat
This division encourages eating autonomy among children and may result in better feeding self-regulation, meaning kids can honor their hunger and fullness cues (
Eat meals as a family
Eating meals as a family offers many benefits for children of all ages — from young toddlers to teenagers.
It also provides an opportunity to talk positively about food and connect social behaviors with eating, which may be especially helpful for older children (
While studies looking at the connection between the frequency of family meals and healthy eating behaviors among kids suggest that the more you can eat as a family, the better, that may not always be practical (
If your family’s schedule makes it difficult for everyone to have dinner together, do the best you can.
Perhaps at least one parent can eat breakfast with the kids, or you can eat as a family on weekends or for some dinners during the week.
Shop and cook with your kids
Involving children of all ages — even young toddlers — in the cooking process can encourage them to eat a wider variety of foods, be more open to trying new foods, and get them excited about eating (
In fact, it can take eight to 15 exposures before some children try new food (
Research shows that repeated food exposures lead to the increased likeliness of a child trying and even liking a food. But think beyond exposures that happen at mealtime (
“The more food exposure a child has, the better. This includes reading about foods, grocery shopping, helping with meal prep, playing with food, and gardening,” says Amber Rodenas, RD, LDN, pediatric dietitian and owner of Seeds and Sprouts Nutrition for Kids, LLC.
Consider every opportunity to expose your kids to different foods. At the grocery store, talk about the colorful produce and have them pick out their favorite fruit or vegetable to bring home.
Consider starting a family garden or growing herbs in small pots and involving your child in the planting and harvesting.
When it comes to preparing food, the amount a child can be involved in depends on age and development. However, the earlier you start, the more the child will be able to do as they grow up.
Younger toddlers can help stir, add things to a bowl, or push buttons on a blender. As kids get older, they can begin pouring liquids into a bowl, cutting soft items (with kid-safe knives), and eventually even help with the actual cooking.
There’s no wrong way to get your child involved, and every exposure counts, even if it didn’t result in them eating the food at that moment.
Stock up on healthy essentials
Food availability plays a clear role in healthy eating — kids surely won’t eat what isn’t served!
Not surprisingly, research shows that having fruits and vegetables available at home encourages kids to eat more of them (
By stocking your kitchen with essentials, it’s easier to prepare meals that help your kids meet all of their nutrition needs.
Aim to keep the following foods stocked in your kitchen:
- a variety of colorful produce (frozen is just as nutritious as fresh) (29)
- whole grains like whole grain bread and pasta, quinoa, farro, brown rice, or wheat berries
- healthy proteins like eggs, chicken, fish (fresh, frozen, or canned), beans, and tofu
- healthy fats like nuts and nut butter, seeds, and olive oil
Keep healthy snacks on hand
Snacks are an opportunity to add nutrients your child needs to their diet. They are also helpful for kids’ energy and satiety between meals (30).
Snacks can ward off “hanger” meltdowns most parents have probably experienced at one time or another.
Try to choose nutritious snacks that include some protein, fiber, and fat to promote satiety (and limit all-day snacking) (32).
Some ideas for healthy snacks include (please choose those that are age-appropriate):
- cut vegetables with dip or hummus
- sliced apple with nut butter and raisins
- energy bites made with dried fruit, nuts or seeds, and oats
- dried chickpeas or other dried beans
- clementines with a cheese stick
- cheese and whole grain crackers
- yogurt with fruit
To encourage healthy snacking, make snack time fun by offering different utensils or varying how you serve the food (such as in muffin tins or on a snack board).
Creating healthy eating habits for kids is multifactorial. Do the best you can to offer a variety of foods and create an environment that encourages healthy eating. But remember that as a parent, you don’t have to do it perfectly every time.
There’s a lot we can do as parents to encourage healthy eating, but there are some things we should avoid as well.
Don’t pressure or bribe your kids to eat certain foods
Nagging, bribing, or pressure such as “just take one more bite” or “you can have dessert if you eat your broccoli” can lead to the opposite effect you’re aiming for.
Pressure techniques have been linked to poorer diet quality, less food variety, and food avoidance and may worsen picky eating (
In addition, they can be hard to enforce, especially among older children, and often lead to mealtime battles (
Labeling food as good or bad can also be coercion or pressure for your child and may lead to an unhealthy relationship with food later. Instead, keep talking about food neutrally (
Don’t allow screens at mealtimes
It can be tempting for a parent to turn on a show or allow your child to play on a tablet or iPad while eating to get some quiet. But this may do more harm than good.
Some of the problems with distracted eating may be related to food choices. Research suggests that screen time may increase consumption of unhealthy foods, increase snacking, and encourage unhealthy dietary behaviors (
Instead of eating with screens, use meals as a time to connect with your children by asking them about their day or taking turns sharing your favorite part of the day.
Don’t focus only on health (or even the food)
While eating a nutritious diet is incredibly important to overall health, we also eat for pleasure.
Talking with your kids about how food tastes, feels, and smells can encourage them to try more foods.
These techniques may also help them form a healthier relationship with food (
“Feeding kids is about nurturing more than good food intake. It’s also about nurturing a trusting relationship,” says Sarah Ladden, MS RDN, pediatric dietitian, mom of three, and family feeding expert.
“The quickest way to get your child to eat calmly and without incident is to take the focus off of food entirely,” she adds.
It can be easy to default to methods like bribing or talking about health when trying to get children to eat healthily. But these things can actually be counterintuitive. Try to focus on creating a healthy food environment instead.
Picky eating can be stressful for parents. It makes preparing food difficult, and you may worry about whether or not your child is getting what they need to be healthy and support growth.
The above guidelines on what to do (and what not to do) to raise healthy eaters can help both prevent and address picky eating. But if you’re feeling stuck, the following research-backed tips from child feeding specialists may help.
Try food chaining
In food chaining, you move gradually from foods your child likes to related foods you’d like them to try.
“Food chaining is a technique used by many dietitians and feeding therapists to help kids learn to like new foods using characteristics of foods they already like,” says Amber Rodenas, RD, LDN, pediatric dietitian and owner of Seeds and Sprouts Nutrition for Kids, LLC.
Food chaining might look something like this:
- Goldfish crackers → Cheez Itz → Saltine Crackers → Saltines with cheese slices
- Strawberries → grapes → grape or cherry tomatoes → tomato slices
You could also implement it by using the flavors of liked foods when preparing foods your child avoids.
For example, if your child likes tacos but doesn’t want to eat pasta, you could serve a “taco pasta” with some of the ingredients in tacos like ground beef and use taco seasoning while adding pasta.
Sometimes it may require moving from one brand of chicken nuggets or mac ‘n cheese to another brand and then introducing another similar food like fish sticks or pasta with butter and grated parmesan.
Food chaining takes patience and time, but older research has shown that it can be a very effective technique (
Implement food play
Food play like food bingo, cutting out shapes to make food puzzles, or even art projects with food (painting with dips and veggies) can be a no-pressure way to encourage your child to interact with the food and eventually try it.
Even reading books about foods has increased younger children’s willingness to try new food (41).
Change up the way you serve foods
Similar to food play, serving foods in fun ways can be a helpful way to encourage your child to try something new.
Some examples are:
- cutting foods into different shapes
- serving meals ‘family style’ so kids can serve themselves
- turning ingredients into foods you know they like, such as dips
- adding a well-liked dip or condiment alongside a new food
Overcoming picky eating takes time and patience. Stay consistent, and over time most kids will learn to like a wider variety of foods.
Feeding picky eaters is a challenge that many parents face. Encouraging a more varied, nutritious diet takes patience and time. If your child is a picky eater, you can try strategies like introducing food play or food chaining.
There are many reasons why your child may not eat dairy foods, including an allergy or intolerance, taste preferences, and family dietary choices.
Dairy foods like milk, yogurt, and cheese provide important nutrients, including protein, fat, vitamins A and D, calcium, and potassium. Because dairy foods are often well-liked by kids, it’s an easy way for them to consume those nutrients.
Ensure your child eats other sources of calcium like fortified soy milk, fortified orange juice, some tofu, canned salmon with bones, sardines, or salmon (
If your child doesn’t drink cow’s milk or other milk fortified with vitamin D, you may want to consider a vitamin D supplement.
If your child doesn’t eat dairy, you need to make sure they’re getting calcium and vitamin D from other food sources, like fortified soy milk, fortified orange juice, tofu, or fatty fish.
For adequate growth and development, kids must eat foods containing a mix of all macronutrients — protein, carbs, and fat — as each plays a different role in the body.
Protein is an incredibly important nutrient for both kids and adults.
Further, it plays a role in the immune system by helping build antibodies to fight off illness, helps your body carry important nutrients like iron, and plays a role in hormone development, among many other functions (46).
Protein is available in animal and plant foods, including meat, poultry, fish, and soy foods like tofu and tempeh, beans, lentils, and dairy.
Most of the carbs you eat are digested and broken down into glucose before your body can use them. Glucose can then be used by your cells or stored in the liver and muscles for later use.
Make sure to choose whole-food sources of carbs rather than refined carbs most of the time. You’ll find refined carbs in baked goods like bread, cakes, cookies, and pastries.
Carbs are abundant in fruits, starchy vegetables, grains, beans, and dairy (47).
Starchy vegetables include white and sweet potatoes, winter squash like butternut, corn, and peas. Nearly all other vegetables are called non-starchy, or watery, vegetables.
Fat also helps increase satiety and provides taste and texture to meals, which may play a role in overall healthy eating (
Aim to serve more unsaturated fats that are liquid at room temperature, primarily found in plant sources and fatty fish.
That includes olive, avocado, canola oils, nuts, nut butter, seeds like pumpkin, sunflower, flax, hemp, chia seeds, and avocado.
Macronutrients include protein, carbs, and fat. All three are important for growth and development as well as overall health and can be consumed by eating a varied diet.
Micronutrients are vitamins and minerals that support growth and development, help the body function, and fight off illnesses. Kids need to consume all vitamins and minerals, but below are some important ones to pay attention to.
Calcium helps build strong bones and teeth and assists in muscle contractions, stimulation of nerves, and blood pressure regulation (
- Yogurt, milk, and cheese
- Fortified soy milk and some other fortified plant-based milk
- Fortified orange juice
- Canned salmon with bones
- Tofu made with calcium sulfate
It’s available in smaller amounts in:
- Chia seeds
- Turnip greens
Your body makes much of its vitamin D through exposure to sunlight. However, it’s impossible to obtain enough direct sunlight year-round in most parts of the world for optimal vitamin D levels (
Depending on your child’s diet and exposure to sunlight, it may be appropriate to consider a vitamin D supplement. Talk with your child’s doctor for an individual recommendation (
Iron supports neurological development, growth, and immune function. It also helps red blood cells carry and deliver oxygen to tissue throughout the body.
Long-term iron deficiency in children may contribute to cognitive problems and learning disabilities (
While iron is important for all children, girls should pay extra attention to iron-rich foods once they start menstruating.
Our bodies can better absorb iron from meat and seafood than we are from plant-based foods. Consuming foods that contain vitamin C can enhance iron absorption from plants, but your child may need more iron-rich foods if they don’t eat meat (
It is involved in the activity of over 300 enzymes in your body that play a role in digestion, metabolism, nerve function, and more (56).
If your child follows a vegan diet or doesn’t like meat, seafood, or eggs, you should consider whether they’re getting enough vitamin B-12. Talk with your child’s doctor if you’re concerned they aren’t getting enough (
Micronutrients are vitamins and minerals that support overall health, growth, and development. Your child can usually meet their micronutrient needs by eating a varied diet.
Healthy eating is important for growth, development, and overall health. It also can help set kids up for healthy eating into adulthood.
It’s important to set up a family and home environment that encourages healthy eating. That involves buying and serving nutritious foods, eating meals as a family, and modeling healthy behavior.
Aim for a positive eating environment. It’s not helpful to bribe or pressure children to eat certain foods, leading to increased food avoidance and picky eating.
There’s no one way to raise a healthy eater, but implementing these guidelines can help your child become a flexible, competent eater over time.
Just one thing
Don’t get caught up about what your child eats at one snack, meal, or even one day. What your child eats over a week or several weeks is what matters most.