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From the moment you lay eyes on your new baby, there’s a shift in your life’s purpose. One day your weekend schedule is packed full of adventurous solo trips, self-care, and dates, and the next, you’re unabashedly living in yoga pants while lovingly attending to your sweet new bambino’s every coo. (Side note: Remember to continue taking care of you, too!)

After those blurry first few weeks (or months) of sleepless nights, jaw-dropping blowouts, and around-the-clock feeding sessions, you might finally be coming up for air to decide how you’re going to supermom (or superdad) this parenting thing with a style that fits your beliefs and family dynamic.

Parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all

While you might feel a lot of pressure to pick one style, the comforting reality is this: In an instant, you become a parent, but the act of parenting is a true journey. Discovering what parenting approach you want to adopt can take time to figure out.

Once more, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Your parenting style can change based on the evolving needs of your family ecosystem.

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We’re going to take a closer look at the attachment parenting philosophy, but feel empowered to create your own parenting style that ebbs and flows. Keep in mind that we emphasize adopting evidence-based practices that promote the utmost health and safety of your pride and joy.

Attachment parenting is a modern parenting philosophy based on the attachment theory, which was coined by the work of two child psychologists. This research-supported theory is based on the concept that a parent’s connection and responsiveness to their baby’s needs have an everlasting effect on their baby’s future emotional health and relationships.

Attachment parenting takes this a few steps further. It emphasizes forming physical and emotional infant-parent bonds through designated “tools.” These tools are designed to promote maximal empathy, responsiveness, and physical touch.

The belief is that this approach will foster both parent and child confidence. This is because the parent learns to appropriately identify and respond to their baby’s signals, and baby feels assured that their needs will be met.

While every loving parent aims to be attentive, the division between parenting styles is all in the “how.” Below, we cover the basic how-to tools (called the “Baby B’s”) that guide attachment parenting.

As you read these, consider that you can identify with one tool but not others. And if there’s a tool you’re uncomfortable with — as some don’t entirely align with the current American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommendations — we strongly encourage you to talk to your pediatrician about it to ensure your baby’s safety.

Birth bonding

Attachment parenting views the initial bonding between mothers/fathers and baby immediately after birth — and up to the first 6 weeks — as a critical step in forming a healthy long-term parent-child attachment.

The approach promotes skin-to-skin contact and constant togetherness between parent and baby with a high level of infant nurturing from the mother especially, using the tools discussed below.


With attachment parenting, breastfeeding is viewed as an essential way to healthfully nurture and soothe your baby. It promotes physical touch and opportunities to respond to your baby’s hunger cues. Breastfeeding also triggers a mother’s body to release hormones that may potentially boost mothering instincts.

Our position: Fed is best

Mamas, hear us out: We know breastfeeding can be emotionally and physically taxing. There are times when new moms want to breastfeed but can’t for many valid reasons, and other moms who choose not to breastfeed for very authentic reasons, too.

While science and the attachment parenting style support breastfeeding as the best source of nutrition for infants, your baby’s source of nutrition and mother-baby bonding can flourish through other feeding methods. Breastfeeding is such a personal choice that can be driven by what allows you and your baby to both thrive.

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Baby wearing

You’ve likely seen every type of wrap, sling, and what have you — so what’s all the hype about baby wearing? With the attachment parenting philosophy, baby wearing promotes physical closeness and trust between the baby and their caregiver. While worn, babies can also safely learn about their environment, and parents can symbiotically learn about their babies through such closeness.


This might be the most controversial of the attachment parenting tools. In this approach, bed-sharing is thought to reduce a baby’s separation anxiety at night and make nighttime breastfeeding easier for mom.

However, there’s a strong body of research noting the serious risks involved in co-sleeping, including sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), suffocation, oxygen deprivation, and being caught in the covers or unintentionally entrapped by the caregiver while sleeping.

Our position: Safety first

In conflict with the bed-sharing recommendations of attachment parenting, the Safe Sleep Guidelines released by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommend sleeping in the same room as your baby for at least 6 months and up to 1 year, but on separate sleeping surfaces. In fact, the AAP states that room-sharing can decrease the risk of SIDS by 50 percent (but bed-sharing can increase it).

Additional safe sleep recommendations from the AAP include:

  • positioning your baby to sleep on their back on a firm surface
  • using tight-fitting sheets in a bare crib with no soft bedding, blankets, toys, or pillows
  • protecting your baby from exposure to smoke, alcohol, and illicit drugs
  • offering a pacifier at nap and bedtime (this one also conflicts with attachment parenting recommendations, which state pacifiers can interfere with breastfeeding)
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Belief in baby’s cries

In attachment parenting, a baby’s cries are viewed as their way of communicating a need — not as a form of manipulation. Attachment parents are quick to sensitively respond to their baby’s every cry to foster growing infant-caregiver trust and learn their baby’s communication style.

Balance and boundaries

Parenthood can be compared to being the circus ringleader. One minute you have the elephants marching in a row, and in a split second, they’re melting down in pure chaos for peanuts.

So the concept of balance is a tough expectation to meet 100 percent of the time, especially in the early days of parenting an infant (and throughout the emotionally turbulent toddler years). This is because you’re constantly trying to find the new equilibrium between meeting the evolving needs of your baby, you, your partner, and all your other relationships and responsibilities. Your status update? It’s complicated.

At its core, attachment parenting encourages tuning into your baby, yourself, and the needs of others in your family ecosystem. It hones in on finding ways to calmly and appropriately respond (yes or no) and even ask for help when you need it (yep — that one’s not easy, either).

In contrast with attachment parenting, other schedule-based styles take on the “baby training” approach. You might see this style in “cry it out” techniques that create more infant-parent independence and stricter schedules for feeding and sleeping.

In attachment parenting, however, babies’ cries are seen as their communication tool, which allows the baby to guide these needs rather than the parent asserting them.

You’ll see this theme in the following examples of what attachment parenting techniques might look like from birth to age 1.


  • Skin-to-skin contact and physical bonding between mother and baby begin immediately after birth.
  • Breastfeeding starts as soon as possible after birth.
  • Mom and dad hold their new baby often.
  • Parents begin listening to their baby’s cries and signals to learn cues, temperament, and needs.
  • Mom establishes breastfeeding with an on-demand feeding schedule.
  • Pacifiers are avoided for soothing and breastfeeding is offered instead.

0 to 12 months

  • Parents hold and wear baby often with a safe baby carrier.
  • Mom lets baby direct when feedings occur, encouraging frequent breastfeeding.
  • Parents answer baby’s cries quickly and attend to all needs with sensitivity.
  • Parents study baby’s behavior, facial expressions, and patterns to build instinctive knowledge about baby’s health, temperament, and needs.
  • Parent and baby co-sleep (again, this is not recommended by the AAP) or sleep in the same room (this is recommended by the AAP).
  • Parental approach emphasizes empathy toward baby’s outbursts or negative emotions.
  • Pacifiers are still avoided.

Attachment parenting in toddlers carries through the same parent-child connection principles. But the tools change as baby transitions into this more autonomous (and boisterous) phase of development.

The style is still predominantly child-guided, and it’s recommended to keep an open time frame for weaning tools, including those related to co-sleeping and breastfeeding, based on the child’s signs of readiness.

The attachment parenting style in toddlerhood will look different for each family. However, here are some general ways the principles might be approached with your toddler.

  • Breastfeeding may continue past age 1 and wean slowly as directed by the child’s cues.
  • Parental empathy guides responding to the child’s needs.
  • Parents validate (and don’t brush off or scold) a child’s negative emotions (fear, anger, and frustration) that may be tied to an unfavorable behavior (crying, tantrums, throwing, and hitting).
  • Co-sleeping continues until guided by the child’s readiness for independent sleeping.
  • Parents encourage touch with toddler carriers, cuddling, and physical closeness.
  • Parents allow the child to be autonomous and make decisions when safe and appropriate.
  • Discipline is done with gentle guidance and positive reinforcement rather than strict or harsh punishment.

The most research-supported benefit of attachment parenting might be related to breastfeeding and its many proven medical, nutritional, developmental, and neuromotor benefits. According to the AAP policy published in 2012, breastfeeding is recommended exclusively for up to 6 months and continued with solids for up to 1 year or longer.

Additionally, one surprising benefit of this parenting style was described in a 2019 meta-analysis. It showed that children with parents who were in tune with and attentive to their emotional and physical needs were over two times more likely to develop better language skills than children who did not experience this style.

Learning the skill of emotional regulation may be another pro of attachment parenting. This 2010 article concluded that infants exposed to a highly responsive parenting style cry less, showing less distress. What’s more, older infants and children influenced by responsive parenting were noted to better regulate emotions such as fear, anger, and distress.

In turn, this reduces their exposure to stress, which can positively affect brain development and the ability to cope with stress later in life.

The most important and potentially very serious con of attachment parenting surrounds bed-sharing. As we’ve discussed, the risk of suffocation and SIDS is higher with co-sleeping than it is with room-sharing, a practice in which the baby is placed in a separate and secure sleeping space within the same room.

And while the effects are not documented by much research, implementing the attachment parenting tools can be very physically and emotionally demanding on the parent (traditionally, the breastfeeding mother) or primary caregiver.

The on-demand breastfeeding and constant physical closeness emphasized in this approach may limit a mother’s ability to establish her own healthy sleep patterns, return to work, or even maintain the same level of intimacy with her partner (at least for some time). Therefore, all of the attachment parenting tools might not jive well with some families’ lives.

Bringing a new baby into your life can rock your world in so many ways. And we know mom guilt is real, so when approaching parenting styles, read through several to learn strategies that align with your beliefs, life, goals, and family dynamic.

It seems the most compelling long-term benefit of attachment parenting is building a responsive parenting style that continues to meet your child’s physical and emotional needs through a sensitive and empathetic approach.

And while the benefits of breastfeeding are well known, it’s such an individual decision for each new mama. Most importantly, take caution with co-sleeping. We recommend discussing safe sleeping guidelines with your child’s pediatrician before implementing this attachment parenting tool.

If you’re interested in learning more about attachment parenting, here are a few books to check out.