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I don’t know about you, but if I have to hear the word “unprecedented” one more time, I might actually lose it.
Sure, it’s not inaccurate. During a global pandemic, we’re facing challenges that are… well… pretty new.
And yes, the mental health toll of all of this uncertainty and fear is very understandable. This is a time when our emotional reserves are low, our anxiety is high, and our brains are a little scrambled.
But hearing the same platitudes over and over again can start to get a little grating, especially when you need support and you don’t know where to find it.
Maybe it’s your first (or hundreth) panic attack. Maybe it’s inexplicable exhaustion that you can’t seem to sleep away. Maybe you’re spiraling, unable to discern if you need to go to urgent care for COVID-19 or call up a psychiatrist for some anti-anxiety meds.
If you’re feeling maxed out or even a little cuckoo-for-Cocoa-Puffs (#notanad), you’re not alone — and there are resources that can support you, no matter what you’re up against.
So take a deep breath, hang tight, and let’s explore your options.
It’s time for a check-in! Which of the following statements best describes what you’re struggling with right now?
PHYSICAL
I think I’m having symptoms of COVID-19 but maybe it’s just in my head?
My brain is sort of fuzzy right now?
I’m scared that I’m gaining weight.
I feel restless and agitated, like I’m trapped.
I can’t sleep and it’s ruining my life.
Maybe I just had a panic attack?? Or I’m dying, I can’t tell.
Being human was hard enough before a pandemic. It makes a lot of sense that so many of us are struggling right now. The silver lining? You don’t have to go through this alone.
Hey, before we get into it… are you having suicidal thoughts? Like maybe there’s no point in sticking around, or that you wish you didn’t have to struggle anymore? I ask because there are folks out there who want to support you.
Click here to view a full list of suicide prevention resources.
I’d also encourage you to read this essay about being suicidal but too afraid to die (from someone who’s been there!).
Support can look a lot of different ways!
Here are some additional options:
- 10 Ways to Reach Out in a Mental Health Crisis
- 5 Mental Health Apps to Help Manage Coronavirus Anxiety
- Therapy on a Budget: 5 Affordable Options
- Mental Health Resources: Types and Options
- 7 Tips for Making the Most of Online Therapy During the COVID-19 Outbreak
- 7 Self-Help Books That Are Better Than a Life Coach
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“Me? Depressed?” If I had a nickel for every time I’ve said this, I could afford my own pandemic-proof bunker by now.
A quick refresher: Depression can look like intolerable boredom, a loss of pleasure or enjoyment, overwhelming sadness, struggling to “bounce back” from setbacks, or even emotional numbness.
When you’re in it, it’s not always easy to recognize, and it can show up a little differently for everyone.
If you haven’t really felt like yourself lately, here are some resources to explore:
- Depression Can Worsen During Self-Isolation. Here’s What You Should Know
- Tending to Your Mental Health During the COVID-19 Outbreak
- 7 Signs It Might Be Time to Revisit Your Mental Health Treatment Plan
- 8 Ways to Get Out of Bed When Depression Is Keeping You Down
- How to Fight Depression Naturally: 20 Things to Try
- 10 Things to Do When You Don’t Want to Do Anything
- How Do I Cope With ‘Checking Out’ From Reality?
- Too Exhausted To Eat? These 5 Go-To Recipes Will Comfort You
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Anxious? Welcome to the club. It’s not exactly a fun club, but at least with physical distancing, you no longer have to worry about people noticing your sweaty palms when they go in for our Official Club Handshake.
(Pro-tip: If you don’t see what you’re looking for here, you can also check out our resources on health anxiety and panic attacks!)
Some COVID-specific resources:
- 5 Mental Health Apps to Help Manage Coronavirus Anxiety
- Is My Anxiety Around COVID-19 Normal — or Something Else?
- 9 Resources for Coping with Coronavirus Anxiety
- 4 Coping Tips for Managing Your Anxiety in Uncertain Times
- Headline Stress Disorder: When Breaking News Is Bad for Your Health
- ‘Doomscrolling’ During COVID-19: What It Does to You and How You Can Avoid It
Coping tools for the long haul:
- Anxiety Exercises to Help You Relax
- I Use This 5-Minute Therapy Technique Every Day for My Anxiety
- 17 Strategies for Coping with Stress in 30 Minutes or Less
Just breathe!
- 8 Breathing Exercises to Try When You Feel Anxious
- 14 Mindfulness Tricks to Reduce Anxiety
- The Best Meditation Apps of 2019
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Not-so-fun fact: Anxiety can trigger a fight-or-flight reaction with physical symptoms!
If you’re wondering if you’re sick or just worried sick, these resources can help:
- How to Deal with Health Anxiety During the COVID-19 Outbreak
- Worried Sick: Health Anxiety and the Do-I-Have-This Disorder
- I Have OCD. These 5 Tips Are Helping Me Survive My Coronavirus Anxiety
Still think you might have it? Here’s what to do next if you suspect you have COVID-19.
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When sheltering in place, it makes a lot of sense that we might start to feel cooped up, stressed out, and agitated. If that’s your struggle, you’ve got options!
To chill out:
- 5 Tips for Coping with ‘Cabin Fever’ During a Shelter-in-Place
- How Gardening Helps Relieve Anxiety — and 4 Steps to Get Started
- DIY Therapy: How Crafting Helps Your Mental Health
- How a Pet Can Help You While You Shelter in Place
When hell is other people:
- The No BS Guide to Protecting Your Emotional Space
- Talk It Out: Communication 101 for Couples
- How to Control Anger: 25 Tips to Help You Stay Calm
- Yes, You’re Going to Get on Each Other’s Nerves — Here’s How to Work Through It
- Living with a Partner for the First Time? Here’s What You Need to Know
- Why Lockdown Tanked Your Libido — and How to Get It Back, If You Want
- The Do’s And Don’ts of Supporting Someone Through a Mental Health Crisis
To get moving:
- Avoiding the Gym Due to COVID-19? How to Exercise at Home
- 30 Moves to Make the Most of Your At-Home Workout
- Best Yoga Apps of 2019
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In my article on anticipatory grief, I wrote, “A mourning process can occur even when we sense that a loss is going to happen, but we don’t know exactly what it is yet.” This can show up as exhaustion, agitation, hypervigilance, a sense of being “on edge,” and more.
If you’re feeling drained or wound up (or both!), it might be worthwhile to explore these resources:
- How Anticipatory Grief May Show Up During the COVID-19 Outbreak
- 7 Ways to Achieve ‘Emotional Catharsis’ Without Having a Meltdown
- The No BS Guide to Organizing Your Feelings
- 9 Ways Crying May Benefit Your Health
- Depression After a Job Loss
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Or don’t, you know? It’s a freaking pandemic, so yes, your concentration is going to be impacted. Radically accepting that we’re not firing at full capacity — and that, yes, that’s okay — can be incredibly helpful.
That said, it’s never a bad time to explore some new coping skills for concentration.
Check these out:
- 12 Tips to Improve Your Concentration
- 11 Quick Focus Boosts When Your Brain Won’t Cooperate
- Trouble Focusing with ADHD? Try Listening to Music
- Need Help Staying Focused? Try These 10 Tips
- 13 Fatigue-Fighting Hacks to Supercharge Your Morning
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Sleep is a critical part of our well-being (I probably sound like a broken record at this point, but it’s true!).
If you’re struggling to fall asleep or stay asleep, check out these tips and remedies:
- Stress About COVID-19 Keeping You Awake? 6 Tips for Better Sleep
- Yes, COVID-19 and Lockdowns Could Be Giving You Nightmares — Here’s How to Sleep More Peacefully
- 17 Proven Tips to Sleep Better at Night
- 8 Home Remedies for Insomnia
- A Restful Yoga Routine for Insomnia
- The Best Insomnia Apps of the Year
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Whether you’re a panic attack veteran or a newbie to the wondrous world of capital-P Panic, welcome! (Be sure to check out our section on anxiety, too, if you need more support!)
These resources are just for you:
- How to Stop a Panic Attack: 11 Ways to Cope
- 7 Steps to Get You Through a Panic Attack
- How to Help Someone Having a Panic Attack
- What to Do When Your Mind Is Racing
- 15 Ways to Calm Yourself Down
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Isolation is tough regardless, but it can be especially hard for people who have relied on substances to cope with anxiety and stress.
For some of us, this means our sobriety will be difficult to maintain. For others, we may become more aware of our problematic relationship to substances for the very first time.
Wherever you’re at in your journey with substances, these reads are designed to help you navigate these challenges:
- How People in Addiction Recovery Are Dealing with the Isolation of COVID-19
- How to Keep Up with Recovery During a Pandemic
- Resist Using Pot, Alcohol to Ease Fears During COVID-19 Outbreak
- 5 Better Questions to Ask Than ‘Am I an Alcoholic’
- Smoking and Vaping in the Age of COVID-19
- Can You Really Be Addicted to Weed?
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With an uptick of social media posts lamenting weight gain in self-quarantine, there’s a lot of pressure to change our bodies and diets — despite the fact that our weight should be the least of our concerns right now!
Your body is your ally in survival, not your enemy. Here are some resources to consider if you’re struggling right now.
A common sense proposal? Ditch the diet (yes, really):
- 7 Reasons Why You Don’t Need To Lose Your ‘Quarantine 15’
- For Many People, Especially Women, Weight Loss Is Not a Happy Ending
- Why This Nutritionist Is Quitting Diets (and So Should You)
- As Your Doctor, I Won’t Prescribe Weight Loss Anymore
You may also want to consider reading “The F*ck It Diet” by Caroline Dooner, which is a great intro to intuitive eating (snag a copy here!).
For folks with eating disorders:
- 5 Reminders for People with Eating Disorders During the COVID-19 Outbreak
- How to Manage an Eating Disorder During Quarantine
- 5 Must-Watch YouTubers Who Talk About Eating Disorders
- The Best Eating Disorder Recovery Apps of 2019
- 7 Reasons ‘Just Eat’ Won’t Cure an Eating Disorder
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Human connection is such an important part of keeping ourselves steady during times of crisis. That’s part of what makes sheltering-in-place such a challenge right now.
If you’re having a hard time with it, don’t panic! Check out the resources below for some extra support (and if you’re craving some physical touch, check out these resources, too!)
If you’re struggling with loneliness:
- How a Chat App Can Help Relieve Loneliness During the COVID-19 Outbreak
- 20 Ways to Get More Comfortable with Being Alone
- 6 Ways to #BreakUp with Loneliness
- How to Make a Long-Distance Relationship Work
- 5 Lessons on Mental Health From ‘Animal Crossing’ That We All Need Right Now
When working from home:
- 9 Helpful Tips When Working from Home Triggers Your Depression
- COVID-19 and Working from Home: 26 Tips to Guide You
- How to Care for Your Mental Health When You Work from Home
- Working from Home? Here Are 5 Tips to Create a Healthy and Productive Environment
- Working from Home and Depression
- 33 Healthy Office Snacks to Keep you Energized and Productive
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Parents, my heart is with you. Being a parent during the COVID-19 outbreak is anything but easy.
If it’s proving to be more of a challenge than you expected, here are some links worth exploring:
- How to Talk to Your Kids About the COVID-19 Outbreak
- Balancing Work, Parenting, and School: Tactical and Emotional Tips for Parents
- COVID-19 Is Unveiling the Child Care Crisis Moms Always Knew Existed
- Anxiety Through the Roof? Simple, Stress-Reducing Tips for Parents
- 6 Calming Yoga Poses for Kids Who Need a Chill Pill
- Mindfulness for Kids: Benefits, Activities, and More
- 10 Tips to Get Your Kids to Sleep
- Keeping Your Kids Busy When You’re Stuck at Home
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Have you heard of something called “skin hunger”? Human beings often crave physical touch, and it’s part of what helps us emotionally regulate and destress.
If you’re needing human touch right now, you’re not the only one.
Here are some workarounds worth checking out:
- 9 Gifts For You or a Loved One Craving Touch During Quarantine
- 3 Ways to Navigate Supportive Self-Touch For Your Mental Health
- I Tried Mindful Moisturizing for 5 Days. Here’s What Happened
- 6 Pressure Points For Anxiety Relief
- Why This 15-Pound Weighted Blanket Is Part of My Anti-Anxiety Routine
- What Does It Mean to Be Touch Starved?
Some sexuality-specific resources here:
- A Guide to Sex and Love in the Time of COVID-19
- 12 Sex Toys Perfect for Social Distancing or Self-Isolation
- Is It Just Me or Is My Sex Drive Higher Than Usual?
- The Benefits of Tantric Masturbation
- How to Stop Being Horny
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That’s not exactly news though, is it? In a lot of ways, this outbreak isn’t exactly a new set of challenges, so much as a slightly different set.
With that in mind, I’ve compiled some relevant reads that can help support you during this time.
Especially for you:
- 7 Tips for Coping with Coronavirus Fear While Chronically Ill
- The Life-Changing Magic of Accepting There Will Always Be a Mess
- 6 Ways to Love Your Body on Bad Days with a Chronic Illness
For folks who just don’t get it:
- 9 Ways to Support Chronically Ill Folks During the COVID-19 Outbreak
- ‘Stay Positive’ Isn’t Good Advice for Chronically Ill Folks. Here’s Why
- Dear Able-Bodied Folks: Your COVID-19 Fear Is My Year-Round Reality
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Sam Dylan Finch is an editor, writer, and digital media strategist in the San Francisco Bay Area. He’s the lead editor of mental health & chronic conditions at Healthline. Find him on Twitter and Instagram, and learn more at SamDylanFinch.com.