Penises come in all different shapes, sizes, and colors.
Some are thick, some are thin, and some are in between. They can be anywhere from the palest pink to the deepest purple. And they can point up, down, or off to the side.
Many people worry about the way their penis looks, but there really is no “normal.” The only “normal” out there is what’s normal for you.
Having doubts? Take a look at these pictures of real penises to get a sense of how varied they can be, and read on to learn about different tips and tricks for your shape.
Some research suggests that the average penis has a girth of 3.66 inches (9.31 centimeters) when flaccid, and 4.59 inches (11.66 centimeters) when erect.
Yes and no. As with any characteristic, it all boils down to preference.
Some people may derive more pleasure from longer or thicker penises, just as others may prefer a partner with a shorter or thinner penis.
What matters most is that you’re comfortable in your own skin. Embracing your size and shape can help you feel more confident in your sexuality and allow you to truly be in the moment.
Your position and point of entry can have a direct impact on sensitivity and pleasure. Consider switching things up! You may find that it adds to you and your partner’s overall satisfaction.
Switch up your position
Certain positions allow for deeper penetration, stimulating more nerves for both partners.
- Grab some pillows. Stack them under your partner’s butt and raise their legs onto your shoulders while you enter.
- During vaginal intercourse, ask your partner keep their thighs close together. This may make the vaginal canal narrower.
- Do it doggy style. Have your partner get on their hands and knees, and enter from behind. This allows you both to control the movement and speed.
- Kneel for the bandoleer. Have your partner lie on their back and raise their feet up with the knees towards their chest. Kneel in front of them, putting their legs on your chest and their lower back on your legs, while you enter.
If you aren’t already having anal sex, it may be worth bringing this up to your partner.
The anus is tighter than the vaginal canal, and penetration may offer more stimulation for both of you.
Keep this in mind:
- Lube is a must. Use water-based lube to prevent any damage to the anus.
- Your position matters. Many people find it helpful to lay on their stomach while their partner enters behind. Doggy style is another comfortable position.
- Start small. Don’t aim for full penis penetration on your first go-round. Start with one finger and work your way up from there.
Take your time and stop if it becomes uncomfortable. You and your partner may find that it takes time to get used to the sensation, so listen to your bodies and check in with one another during.
Perfect your oral technique
If you find that it’s difficult to bring your partner to orgasm through penetration, consider oral stimulation of the clitoris or anus.
- Move your tongue around. Go in a circle, up and down, or side to side.
- Explore with your fingers before you go all in. Go slow and pay attention to how your partner responds. Ask them where they like to be touched.
- Double up with fingers and tongue. Keep your tongue moving while you gently slide a finger or two inside.
Play with toys
Sex toys can offer additional stimulation. You can add these during foreplay or alongside the main event — whatever that may be!
Consider one of these:
- a handheld vibe to stimulate the clitoris or anus
- a vibrating penis ring to stimulate both of your genitals
- a small butt plug or anal beads to help prepare for further penetration
If you want to increase your girth, talk to a doctor or other healthcare provider about how you’re feeling.
They can discuss your options for enlargement and answer any questions you may have.
Manual stretching can help make your penis temporarily thicker or longer.
To manually stretch:
- Grip your penis head.
- Pull your penis up. Stretch it for 10 seconds.
- Pull your penis leftward for 10 more seconds, then right.
- Repeat twice a day for 5 minutes at a time.
Or try this:
- Grip your penis head.
- Pull your penis up.
- Press on the base of your penis simultaneously.
- Hold for 10 seconds.
- Repeat, pulling your penis to the left and putting pressure on the right side of your penis base.
- Repeat, pulling your penis to the right and putting pressure on the left side of your penis base.
- Repeat once daily for 2 minutes.
Or try “jelqing”:
- Make an O shape with your index finger and thumb.
- Put this O gesture at your penis base.
- Make the O smaller so that you put light pressure on the penis shaft.
- Move your finger and thumb up the penis head slowly towards the tip. Relieve some pressure if this hurts.
- Repeat once daily for 20 to 30 minutes.
Some devices can also be used to manually stretch your penis.
You can try a penis pump for temporary enlargement:
- Put your penis inside the pump’s air-filled chamber.
- Suck air out of the chamber with the pump’s mechanism to pull blood into your penis and make it erect.
- Keep the included ring or clamp on your penis to stay erect for sex or masturbation for up to 30 minutes.
- After sexual activity, remove the ring.
Or try a traction device for long-term gains (more for length than for girth):
- Put your penis into the bottom of the device.
- Use the two notches on the other end to secure your penis head.
- Secure the device’s silicone tube around your penis shaft.
- Take the silicone tube’s ends from the bottom of the device and pull your penis out. Stop pulling if you feel pain or discomfort.
- Let the penis stay stretched like this for 4 to 6 hours daily.
If you have a hormonal imbalance, injections or oral medications may help.
Consider getting your levels checked if you also experience:
- low libido
- mood changes
- difficulty remembering things
- unexpected weight gain
Your healthcare provider can help determine what’s causing your symptoms and whether hormone therapy is right for you.
The Shafer width and girth (S.W.A.G.) procedure is an outpatient injection technique that uses syringes filled with soft tissue filler, such as hyaluronic acid, to increase the girth of your penis.
A course of three to five injections is used to purportedly make your penis up to 68 percent girthier.
Some plastic surgeons and cosmetic surgical facilities offer injections as freely as they would injected fillers for the face, lips, and other body parts.
Before you make an appointment, do some research online to find a facility that:
- is licensed
- employs state board-certified plastic surgeons
- has good reviews
This procedure consists of implanting a crescent-shaped device under the penis skin and over two spongy, cylindrical pieces of tissue that fill with blood when you get hard. Each Penuma is designed to fit your penis.
As with any surgery, there are some risks. And because this procedure is only offered by a single doctor, the reported results may not be entirely accurate.
Talk to your current healthcare provider before making an appointment. They can help you decide whether this is the best option for you.
If you’re concerned about the size or girth of your penis, make an appointment with your healthcare provider. They can answer any questions that you have and may help you feel more at ease.
If you want to explore enlargement, your provider can discuss stretching techniques and, if needed, refer you to a specialist.