In any relationship, you may question if the person you’re with is the right person for you. The same is true with the psychologist-patient relationship.

After you’ve seen a psychologist for several sessions, you make have some sneaking suspicions that the type of therapy you’re receiving isn’t the best for you.

But before you go and decide to terminate a relationship prematurely, make sure you know this one very important fact: there are no instant results in treating mental health.

Therapy takes time, but you need to feel confident that the time you’re investing is also yielding the positive results you seek.

Here are just some questions to ask yourself if you’re wondering your current psychologist is right for you:

  • Do I feel I am getting the best treatment?
  • Am I getting the type of therapy I think I need?
  • Do I trust my psychologist? If not, why?
  • Do I feel my psychologist is “there” for me? If not, why?
  • Does what my psychologist says make me uncomfortable?
  • Is my psychologist teaching me techniques to deal with my problems outside of sessions?
  • Is my psychologist helping me better understand my situation?
  • What have I learned so far?
  • What are the measurable successes we’ve made together?
  • What can I do to make our sessions more productive?
  • Am I more concerned with short-term results than long-term goals?
  • Am I looking for answers from my psychologist or I am looking to make better ones myself?
  • Do I feel like I’m improving my condition with each session?
  • Am I uncomfortable talking to my psychologist about certain subjects?
  • If so, is this because of him/her, or is it because I am not ready?
  • Do I feel confident he/she is keeping my sessions confidential?
  • Am I paying too much?
  • How much more time should I give him/her?
  • What could I ask my psychologist to do better?
  • Are my expectations realistic?

If you’re unable to bring up these topics with your psychologist in fear that he or she may be offended, that could be a good indicator to seek therapy elsewhere.