When it comes to shower sex, the only thing that’s slippery when wet is the shower floor. This makes for a potentially neck-breaking liaison that isn’t nearly as sexy as it is in the movies. In fact, anyone who’s had shower sex in real life will probably tell you it’s actually the worst.
That said, shower sex has the potential to be the stuff of movies with the right moves. It’s a fun way to steam things up — literally — and it can be a nice break from the bedroom.
We’ve got positions, products, and other tidbits to help you get your rub-a-dub on safely and sexily.
Hit the showers with these tips to master shower sex like a boss and come out on the other side with no broken bones or bruised egos.
1. Turn up the heat
Seriously. It’s hard to be hot when you’re freezing cold and you can bet your damp bottom that at least one of you will be. A showerhead can only cover so much ground, so turning up the heat beforehand will help.
2. Buy shower-friendly lube
3. Invest in a non-slip shower mat
A non-slip bath mat is a must if you’re planning to get sudsy and sexy at the same time. These grippy mats adhere to the bottom of your tub or shower and can be pulled up for cleaning when you’re done getting dirty.
4. Rinse, then rinse some more
Lathering up your lover may be the epitome of romance in the movies, but soap, shampoo, and especially conditioner can make the shower floor extra slick. If you’re going to lather up together, rinse well to get rid of any slimy residue. Also, soap is slippery, but it’s not lube, so don’t go there.
5. Bath toys
Bath toys aren’t just for kids — at least not the kind we’re talking about. You have some pretty impressive options when it comes to waterproof sex toys like vibrating loofahs, waterproof vibrators, and butt plugs.
6. Don’t get stuck on penetration
Penetration isn’t the holy grail of shower sex and doesn’t need to be your focus or end game. The shower lends itself well to other kinds of play, including oral sex and exploring each other’s erogenous zones.
Virtually any sex position can be performed in the shower if you’re determined enough, but that doesn’t mean they’re all a good idea. To keep from slip-sliding your way to the emergency room, give the following positions a try.
Pro tip: Get a suction shower handle or footrest for extra support during shower sex. They’re affordable, reusable, and a lot sturdier and safer than the shower curtain or soap holder.
1. Standing doggy-style
This take on doggy lets you keep both feet firmly planted on the shower floor while you use your hands for extra support.
To do it:
Place your palms flat against the shower wall, leaning toward it with your knees slightly bent. This allows the other person to penetrate you from behind using a penis, sex toy, or fingers. They can also show your clitoris, perineum, or other bits some love.
2. Sit and ride
This works well for P in V sex, but can also work for anal penetration if you angle yourself just right.
To do it:
Have your partner sit on the floor of the shower, on the shower bench if you have one, or the side of the tub. Straddle them in any position that allows for penetration comfortably and hold on to them tight while you take a ride.
3. Get a leg up
Though not totally necessary, this is one position that would benefit from the footrest and handle we mentioned, but the side of the tub or a shower seat will do, too.
To do it:
Stand facing your partner and bring one leg up to the footrest, bench, or tub’s edge. If you don’t have any of those things, have your partner use one hand to hold your leg up while they thrust.
4. Got my back
This is similar to the leg up position, except with your back to your partner. It works for vaginal penetration from behind and anal penetration, too.
To do this:
Stand facing the shower wall and rest your foot on the footrest, bench, or tub’s edge for support. Have your partner stand directly behind you and hold your leg up for extra support while they penetrate you.
5. The chairperson
This is like reverse cowgirl, only it can be used even with no cow or girl in sight.
To do this:
Have your partner take a seat on the shower bench, edge of the tub, or floor. Straddle their lap, facing away from them, positioning yourself for anal or vaginal penetration. Place your hands on their knees or against the shower wall for balance.
Shower sex can be precarious — and we’re not just talking about falls. Along with a non-slip mat and making sure you hold the wall, handle, or other sturdy surface for support, there are a few other things you should keep in mind.
- Use condoms. Shower sex may be clean, but it won’t protect you from STIs. Use condoms for penetrative sex and oral sex. A condom can also be cut to use as a dental dam for going down or rimming.
- Consent is key. Shower sex isn’t everyone’s bag. Unless both parties consent and are totally into it, then you’ll need to find another way to spice things up that you’re both comfortable with. Communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t.
- Things get slippery outside the shower, too. Be careful when getting out of the shower or tub. Wet floors, floor mats, and bodies tangled in the throes of passion making their way to the bedroom make tripping a serious possibility. Walk, don’t run.
- Staying wet too long can breed bacteria. Sorry to put a damper on your fun, but damp nether regions are a breeding ground for bacteria and fungi. Be sure to dry off well after shower sex to avoid a yeast infection.
Amazing shower sex is possible with some communication, care, and a little know-how.
Remember: Sex doesn’t look the same for everyone and intercourse in a shower is hard — no pun intended. There are plenty of other things that can make for a pleasurable shower session.