Odds are, you watch porn. Hell, you might even be watching it this very second. (Some estimates suggest that nearly 30,000 people are watching X-rated vids at any given moment!)
But have you ever watched bisexual porn? You might want to try!
Here, sex educators explain why bisexual and non-bisexual pleasure seekers alike enjoy bisexual porn.
Bisexual porn is a genre of porn that showcases threesomes (or more-somes!) between people of different genders who all engage sexually with one another.
A threesome in which two men dote on, kiss, or penetrate one woman but never penetrate, manually stroke, or kiss each other isn’t bisexual porn. (Yes, even if the men do DVP, or double-vaginal penetration, with the woman.) This is called an “MFM threesome.”
However, if the threesome features one man penetrating the woman’s mouth, another penetrating her vagina, and both men kissing, that would qualify as “bisexual.”
A scene in which Man A is anally penetrating Man B, who’s simultaneously penetrating the woman, is also bisexual. This would be called an “MMF threesome” (note the letter differential).
Worth mentioning: Bisexual porn, more than most other genres, is likely to feature transgender performers.
In 2019, Jim Powers, director of Biphoria — short for Bisexual Euphoria — told AVN that “bi porn is blowing up!”
Powers continued, saying, “I have never seen a genre take off so fast! From now on you’re going to be seeing all the studios doing bi content.”
According to popular adult website Pornhub, in 2018, 45- to 54-year-olds were 43 percent more likely than other age groups to view “bisexual” videos on the site. And viewers 65 and older searched for “bisexual swingers” 183 percent more than in previous years.
Then, in 2019, Pornhub called “bisexual” one of the seven most defining terms of the year.
(These are the most up-to-date statistics on the matter, as Pornhub did not release a 2020 annual review before the time of this article’s publication.)
One way to find bisexual porn is with a search of that category.
But searching “MFM,” “FMF,” “MMFM,” and “FFMF,” to name a few, will bring up bisexual content. (Here, the M stands for “male” and the F stands for “female,” and the letter order indicates who’s “acting upon” whom.)
Other categories that may bring up bisexual content include:
Psychotherapist and sex and relationship expert Rachel Wright, LMFT, notes that porn that features two or more women having sex with one man typically don’t get classified as bisexual porn or a bisexual threesome.
Why? Blame biphobia and society’s inaccurate understandings of sexuality.
“When men have sex with other men it’s seen as bisexual or gay, whereas if women have sex with other women, it’s usually just seen as hot,” Wright explains.
Because of this, it’s possible that there are far more people watching bisexual porn than the above statistics suggest.
There’s typically a difference between the things people like to fantasize about and the things they want to try in real life.
More of a visual learner? Imagine a Venn diagram with “what you fantasize about” and “what you want to try IRL.” There may be some overlap of the two circles, but for most people there’s a huge grouping of acts that are just fantasy fodder.
“What we fantasize about doesn’t determine our sexuality,” Wright says. “And the sex acts we engage in don’t either.”
The only thing that determines sexuality is self-identification. Meaning, you’re bisexual because you say you’re bisexual.
So many reasons!
It can turn on the brain
All kinds of porn have the potential to turn on your biggest sex organ: your brain.
“Having sex is a basic human need, so our brains are hardwired to want sex,” Wright says. “Watching porn helps feed that underlying need to engage with sex.”
There are sex sounds on sex sounds on sex sounds
Visuals aside, porn also exposes viewers to sex sounds, which similarly ignite the brain, says Wright. (That’s why audio erotica can be so arousing, too.)
“Hearing moans, breaths, and dirty talk help to escalate our arousal,” explains queer sex educator Marla Renee Stewart, MA, sexpert for Lovers adult wellness brand. “The more sounds we have, the faster we can accelerate our arousal.”
Your senses can get (pleasurably) overloaded
While all porn engages your sense of sight and sound, bisexual porn does so to a great degree.
“It overloads your senses,” Wright says.
There are three or more people moaning and slurping and spitting! All the bits are being licked! Talk about sensation!
You can identify with a variety of performers
“Watching porn featuring multiple people and genders allows for many more opportunities for a viewer to relate to what they’re seeing,” says Jiz Lee, marketing director of Pink and White Productions.
While you watch you can mentally toggle between different people or acts that turn you on, or narrow in on the single sound.
“For someone whose gender doesn’t exist in the binary, it can be especially erotic to see other gender expressions because many times we want to see ourselves expressed on the screen,” Stewart says.
While for those folks who are on the binary or identify as a woman or man, watching porn with folks of other genders can be exciting because it can foster curiosity, which may lead to exploration and expansion in one’s own sexuality, she says.
“It can also help to humanize folks and not treat people objectively,” Stewart adds.
Bisexuality is taboo, and taboos can be hot
Being bisexual — especially as a man — is still taboo. So, bisexual porn occupies a similar camp.
Taboos, in general, can be arousing, says Stewart. Indeed, some
And beyond that, the taboo nature can be politically powerful.
“Watching bisexual porn gives you the opportunity to reframe desire away from conventional, heteronormative power dynamics and storylines” and toward queer, bisexual longings, says Lee.
How? In part, by featuring more than two people getting down with each other at once!
And in part by showing men as the receptors of penetration, as opposed to just the initiators of it. (And by showing women getting off on witnessing men receive penetration.)
Bisexual porn = group sex
A bisexual threesome and bisexual more-some is group sex. And group sex is one of the most common sexual fantasies, says Stewart.
In fact, research published in “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life” by internationally recognized sex educator Dr. Justin Lehmiller found that group sex is *the* most common sexual fantasy.
“There’s definitely an element of the taboo about group sex that turn people on,” says certified sex coach Gigi Engle, author of “All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life.” “It goes against societal norms and diverges from what we’re taught is good and pure.”
There’s also the newness aspect, which many humans crave.
“We want to try new things and do new things sexually, and having sex with other people can be way to satiate that need,” Stewart says.
Oh, and there’s also the fact that it involves multiple people desiring you.
“There’s a lot of power and hotness in a bunch of sexy people wanting you,” Stewart says.
Start by asking yourself if you want to try what you saw in real life. Sometimes the answer will come to you in your gut.
Another way to know, says Wright, is to watch a bisexual porn scene (or 10). Then, the next time you masturbate, shut your laptop, open your imagination, and fantasize about being one of the performers.
“After, sit with how you felt during that fantasy and think through what sensations came up in your body,” Wright says.
Searching “bisexual porn” on free sites (like Pornhub) will bring up content. The problem, however, is that paying for your porn is the baseline of being an ethical porn consumer.
If you’ve already watched content on those sites and have a fave performer, check out their OnlyFans, ManyVids, or personal website to buy content from them directly.
Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people feel the best they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she co-hosts called Bad In Bed. Follow her on Instagram @Gabriellekassel.