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Q: Is it really possible to have a “loose” vagina? My partner hasn’t said anything, but I’m worried that I’m not satisfying them sexually. Is there anything I can do to make sex feel better for them?

It isn’t really possible to have a loose vagina, because your vagina is elastic.

This means it can stretch to accommodate things coming in (like a penis or sex toy) or going out (like a baby).

Either way, your vagina will snap back to its previous shape.

Your vagina may become slightly looser as you age or have children, but overall, the muscles expand and retract just like an accordion or a rubber band.

If you’re worried that your partner isn’t sexually satisfied, the best thing you can do is have an open and honest conversation about how you’re feeling.

This will open the door for both of you to share your needs and learn about what the other desires.


Dr. Janet Brito is a nationally certified Latinx sex therapist, supervisor, speaker, trainer, and author. Dr. Brito is the founder and owner of the Hawaii Center for Sexual and Relationship Health, a group practice that specializes in relationship and sex therapy, out of control sexual behavior, and gender and sexually diverse populations, and The Sexual Health School, an online training program for healthcare professionals seeking human sexuality training.

Education

  • Loyola University Chicago, BS
  • Columbia University in the City of New York, MS
  • Pacifica Graduate Institute, PhD

Certifications

  • Licensed Clinical Psychologist
  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker
  • AASECT Certified Sex Supervisor
  • AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

Professional Accomplishments

Affiliations

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