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Q: Is it really possible to have a “loose” vagina? My partner hasn’t said anything, but I’m worried that I’m not satisfying them sexually. Is there anything I can do to make sex feel better for them?

It isn’t really possible to have a loose vagina, because your vagina is elastic.

This means it can stretch to accommodate things coming in (like a penis or sex toy) or going out (like a baby).

Either way, your vagina will snap back to its previous shape.

Your vagina may become slightly looser as you age or have children, but overall, the muscles expand and retract just like an accordion or a rubber band.

If you’re worried that your partner isn’t sexually satisfied, the best thing you can do is have an open and honest conversation about how you’re feeling.

This will open the door for both of you to share your needs and learn about what the other desires.


Janet Brito is an AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor who also has a license in clinical psychology and social work. She completed her postdoctoral fellowship at the University of Minnesota, one of only a few programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training. Currently, she’s based in Honolulu, Hawaii, and is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health. Dr. Brito has been featured on many outlets, including O: The Oprah Magazine, HuffPost, Playboy, Women’s Health, Thrive Global, and Midweek Publications. Reach out to her through her website or on Instagram.