Q: I feel like my penis is small, and like I can’t satisfy my partner because of it. Is there anything I can do to make it bigger? How can I make it feel bigger during sex? How can I last longer before ejaculation?
There isn’t anything you can do to make your penis bigger in or outside of the bedroom — but all hope is not lost.
It’s important to remember that the size of your penis isn’t as important as what you do with it. In other words, how you use it makes a big difference.
If you want to make sure your partner is satisfied
The only requirements for earth-shattering sex are confidence, communication, and a willingness to try new things.
And the key to satisfying your partner is asking them about what they want. That’s it!
Once you know what they want, make the most of what you have. Certain positions, focusing on more than just penetration, and using toys can make all the difference.
If you want a temporary increase in size
Cock rings can be used to make erections harder, bigger, and longer lasting.
They’re worn around the base of the penis in an effort to reduce the amount of outward blood flow, causing your penis to look bigger.
Trimming the hair around the base can help prevent unwanted pain during use.
Wearing a cock ring for more than 20 minutes can cause complications, so make a note of the time.
If you want to last longer before ejaculation
If you’re in the moment, you may find it helpful to:
- Slow down any thrusting, and shift your focus to exploring other erogenous zones.
- Gently squeeze the shaft just below the head of your penis. This can help decrease the urge to come.
If you’re trying to find a longer-term solution:
- Commit to strengthening your pelvic floor.
- Learn how to “edge” or practice orgasm control.
- Self-pleasure 1 to 2 hours before you expect to engage in any partnered sexual activity.
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Dr. Janet Brito is a nationally certified Latinx sex therapist, supervisor, speaker, trainer, and author. Dr. Brito is the founder and owner of the Hawaii Center for Sexual and Relationship Health, a group practice that specializes in relationship and sex therapy, out of control sexual behavior, and gender and sexually diverse populations, and The Sexual Health School, an online training program for healthcare professionals seeking human sexuality training.
Education
- Loyola University Chicago, BS
- Columbia University in the City of New York, MS
- Pacifica Graduate Institute, PhD
Certifications
- Licensed Clinical Psychologist
- Licensed Clinical Social Worker
- AASECT Certified Sex Supervisor
- AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
Professional Accomplishments
- Brito, J. (2018). A Phenomenological Analysis on Infertility in Mexican Women Living in the U.S. Interamerican Journal of Psychology.
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