Not happy with how hard your erections get? You’re not alone.
The key is figuring out whether you’re dealing with a one-off issue or if less than ideal erections are becoming a regular occurrence.
Either way, a combination of talking with your partner, making a few lifestyle adjustments, and forming new habits may help.
Talking to your partner is the only way to communicate how you’re feeling and what you’re experiencing.
Use this time to open up a discussion about any anxieties, discontents, or even boredom you may have about your current sex life.
Here are some tips to help spark a healthy, productive conversation:
- Dissatisfaction with your sex life doesn’t necessarily mean dissatisfaction with your partner or relationship. Try to keep your mind from wandering toward extremes. Do your best to reassure your partner. A convo about your sex life likely doesn’t mean the end of this pairing; you may just need something new to spice things up.
- Sexual behaviors are often learned from the media we consume. This includes both positive and negative depictions of sexual activity. Be aware that what you think sex is supposed to be may not be what you or your partner want.
- Timing is important. This isn’t the time to multitask. You don’t want to risk making your partner feel unheard during a vulnerable conversation.
Before you do anything too drastic or long term to your diet or lifestyle, try to spice things up with:
- New positions. Try raising your partner’s legs on your shoulders when you enter, do it from behind while lying on your side or with your partner on their hands and knees, or have your partner keep their legs closer together to tighten the vaginal canal or anal area.
- Sex toys. Handheld vibrators, penis rings, butt plugs, and anal beads can be a fun way to stimulate the penis, clitoris, or anus.
- Other forms of sexual contact. Use your mouths to build excitement, either on each other’s genitals or other erogenous areas.
- Different entry points. In a heterosexual relationship and only tried vaginal sex? Ask your partner if they’re interested in trying anal. Or if they’re willing to peg you with a toy. Pro tip: Bring plenty of lube!
- Role-playing. Set up a situation or act as characters to help build an arousing story around your sexual encounter.
- Focus less on sexual performance. Instead, focus more on identifying what type of touch feels the most pleasurable to you.
The nutrients in many fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and legumes help improve blood flow throughout your body — including your penis.
And blood flow to the penis is one of the keys to healthy, consistent erections.
Here are some foods that may help:
- Fruits high in
antioxidants and anthocyanins, such as blueberries, can help protect body tissues and lower your risk for heart disease.
- Dense, leafy greens with
folate, like spinach, can help boost testosterone levels.
dense with B-12, such as fermented soy-based tempeh, can help support other bodily functions that contribute to erectile health.
- Foods with
L-arginine, such as oatmeal, can help relax your muscles and improve blood flow.
Eating a diet that’s high in fatty, fried, or processed foods may
These conditions include:
You may find it helpful to:
- Swap high-fat dairy products, like yogurt and milk, for low-fat versions.
- Opt for oat or whole-grain cereals instead of processed ones.
- Buy cheese whole instead of pre-grated.
If you’re usually pressed for time, you may find it helpful to keep salad greens and other easy-to-prep vegetables and grains like quinoa on hand.
Use simple whole foods like these to throw a quick, nutritious meal together, or even prep a meal or two in advance.
Following this diet may help:
- lower cholesterol
- increase antioxidants
- increase L-arginine levels
- improve blood flow
If you aren’t ready to make the switch or want to gradually ease into it, start by eating more of the following:
- vegetables like kale, spinach, and carrots
- fruits like apples, bananas, and grapes
- nuts and seeds like almonds, walnuts, and sunflower seeds
- legumes like beans, lentils, and peanuts
- tubers like potatoes and yams
- poultry like chicken and turkey
- dairy like cheese and Greek yogurt
- healthy fats like extra-virgin olive oil and avocados
Heavy alcohol consumption is
One or two drinks typically won’t hurt. It may even help
But there’s a direct correlation between how many drinks you have and how often you have issues with sexual performance.
Love coffee or tea? Great! Caffeine
Try to keep it to black coffee, unsweetened tea, and caffeinated drinks without sweeteners.
Make time for a short walk or jog, or consider the following moves for an at-home workout:
Some research suggests the pressure put on the blood vessels and nerves in your pelvic area when biking can lead to ED.
More research is needed to know if there’s truly a connection.
If you bike a lot to work or just for fun, consider investing in a seat that takes some of the pressure off your perineum, where pressure may do the most damage.
Having excess weight or obesity can affect your sex drive and increase your risk for conditions that affect your sexual health, including:
This can affect your circulation, and, in turn, make it more difficult to get and maintain an erection.
Here are some tips to make sure you get your six to eight hours a night:
- Turn off all screens — including your phone, computer, or TV — at least an hour before bed.
- Avoid caffeinated drinks after about 6 p.m.
- Limit any daytime naps to an hour or so at most.
- Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time each day.
- Consider taking a melatonin supplement about an hour before bed.
- Keep your bedroom at around 70°F (21°C).
Research suggests that psychological factors like stress and anxiety are often the culprit behind ED.
Stress and anxiety can also make you more likely to develop other conditions that have been linked to ED, including:
Try these tips to reduce stress:
Nitric oxide opens up your blood vessels, allowing blood to flow through more easily when you’re erect. Impairing its effectiveness can make it more difficult to get and stay erect.
Herbal supplements aren’t regulated in the same way as food and medication. Many herbs can interact with over-the-counter and prescription medications, too.
It’s important to talk to a healthcare provider before adding any of the following supplements to your routine. They can discuss your individual risk for side effects.
Talk to your provider about:
- L-arginine. This amino acid has been
shownto help with ED. It relaxes blood vessels to improve blood flow for consistent erections.
- L-citrulline. This is another amino acid. Your body converts it to L-arginine. It also
improvesblood flow by helping create nitric oxide.
- Ginseng. This herb has
long been shownto improve libido with a component called ginsenosides. It may also improve sperm quality and sperm count.
- Yohimbe. This tree bark-derived substance is thought to
blockalpha-2 adrenergic receptors. This may increase blood flow for better erections. More research is needed to better understand this potential connection.
- Horny goat weed. This cleverly named herb contains icariin. This substance blocks PDE5, an enzyme that stops erections. It also makes it easier for blood to flow into the smooth muscles of the penis.
Make an appointment with a doctor or other healthcare provider if you’re frequently:
- concerned about the overall firmness of your erection
- unable to get or maintain an erection
- stressed or concerned about your sexual performance
These could be symptoms of ED.
Low testosterone levels can also affect your sexual performance. See a doctor if you notice any of the following:
- reduced semen volume
- abnormal hair loss
- persistent fatigue
- difficultly concentrating
- trouble with your memory
- losing muscle mass
- abnormal fat buildup, especially in the chest (gynecomastia)
Your doctor can order some blood tests and recommend treatment, if needed. If you don’t already have a provider, our Healthline FindCare tool can help you connect to physicians in your area.