No, penis size doesn’t matter — at least not in terms of desirability or function.
Its size has zero bearing on its ability to give and receive pleasure or do any of what it’s supposed to do.
That’s not to say that some people don’t prefer a bigger or smaller one, but that’s a matter of perceived preference, kind of like pineapple on pizza. To each their own.
Need some reassurance — or better yet, proof? Read on.
Contrary to the bull you might hear in the locker room or media, a bigger dick isn’t everything.
Bigger-than-average penises have been associated with a higher risk of injury and infection.
Extra length can also make some positions especially painful.
Too much girth can cause tearing if you’re not careful, especially during anal sex. Then there’s the whole choking and gag reflex to contend with during oral.
Of course, there are ways around these things, but it just goes to show that having a huge D isn’t all that.
A smaller D is automatically easier to handle, which means all involved can focus on pleasure rather than pain or trying to figure out how the eff you’re gonna get THAT in there.
It’s certainly easier for fitting in the mouth. And when it comes to anal, a smaller peen is basically top dog.
Like any size penis, any perceived shortcomings are easily — and enjoyably — rectified with the right position.
Most people with penises — around 85 percent — overestimate what average is when it comes to dick size and are convinced everyone else is packing something a lot beefier.
Here’s a dose of reality based on the most recent stats on schlong size:
- The average penis length is 3.6 in (9.1 cm) when flaccid and 5.2 in (13.1 cm) when erect.
- Girth-wise, the average flaccid penis measures 3.66 (9.31 cm) around and 4.59 (11.66 cm) in while erect.
You can be hung like the proverbial stallion and still lack stamina in the sack.
A big dick won’t last longer than a smaller one or keep you from running out of steam or cumming faster than you’d like.
If you’ve got baby-making on the mind, the last thing you need to do is stress about your size.
For starters, sperm is produced in the testicles — not the penis. Plus, there’s evidence that stress can reduce sperm quality and affect fertility.
FYI, stress can also put a kibosh on sexual pleasure, boners, and negatively impact your overall health.
Peen size can totally affect your game, but how comes down to you.
Learn how to make the most of what you’ve got and all the other ways there are to give pleasure and you’ll be a rockstar. Focus on size alone and you’ll flop — literally and figuratively.
For example, some folks neglect their skillset because they think a big dick is all they need to rock someone’s world… and it’s not.
Others may let worries of a small D drain their confidence, causing them to overcompensate in other ways.
All of these things can take a mental toll on the penis-haver and suck the fun out of a sex sesh for all involved.
Not to keep hammering away at it, but it’s not the size of your penis that matters as much as what you do with it.
There’s nothing quite like leaving your partner writhing in ecstasy to thrust your confidence sky high, which will serve you well, in and out of the bedroom.
Here’s how to max the crap out of what you’ve got and feel good about what you’re working with — whether you lean bigger, smaller, or fall someplace between.
If you’re more endowed
The key to working with a bigger-than-average penis isn’t even really about your penis — at least not at first.
Making sure your partner is super-aroused will make it easier for them to handle your beast of a boner, so some extra focus on foreplay is a must. And lube. Lots of lube.
Use your mouth, tongue, or fingers to tease their erogenous zones, focusing on all the usual suspects, like the nips and genitals, as well as some less explored but surprisingly erotic bits, like the inner arms of behind the knees.
If you’re both ready to move onto penetration, choose positions that allow your partner a little more control over the depth. Having them on top is always a good way to go.
First, they can take you in at a pace that feels good. Plus, you get a bangin’ view of all the action and easy access to their other parts for maximum arousal.
If you’re less endowed
If your penis falls to the smaller side of the spectrum, focus on positions that let you go deep, like doggy style. Take it deeper by having your partner lower their head and chest while arching their back.
If you have a thinner penis, choose positions that make for a tighter squeeze. This can be any sex position, really, so long as your partner keeps their legs tight together.
Missionary, face-down, and them-on-top positions all work with closed legs.
And don’t let your wang worries make you forget about other types of sex. Add oral sex to the menu as the appetizer or even the main course.
And when giving, incorporate your hands or a sex toy to increase the chances of a clitoral or anal orgasm.
And speaking of orgasms, know that the chances of having them increases greatly with manual or oral stimulation than with intercourse.
You may also find it easier to hit the G spot, A spot, or P spot using your fingers or a toy. Seriously. Give it a try. You can thank us later.
If you’re somewhere in the middle
Well look at you and your not-too-big and not-too-small D, Goldicocks!
In terms of sex positions, anything goes if you aren’t trying to accommodate a penis that falls outside the average range. This is your chance to experiment like mad and fine tune the positions that you and your partner enjoy the most.
As long as your partner’s up for it, mix things up with sex in different places or consider exploring your kinky side.
Sensation play using sex toys, feathers, and ice cubes is a good start, especially if you’re BDSM-curious.
Being good in bed — or anywhere else you choose to get busy — isn’t about penis size, but how you handle it.
Figuring out what feels good for you and your partner and choosing moves that make the most of your penis type will serve you better than worrying will, so get to it!
Adrienne Santos-Longhurst is a freelance writer and author who has written extensively on all things health and lifestyle for more than a decade. When she’s not holed up in her writing shed researching an article or off interviewing health professionals, she can be found frolicking around her beach town with husband and dogs in tow, or splashing about the lake trying to master the stand-up paddleboard.