Adoption is a wonderful way to start or expand a family. But like any family dynamic, it can come with challenges. There are many factors to consider when choosing adoption. Depending on your situation, there may also be a period of adjustment. An adopted child’s previous background and needs can come into play.
Whether you’ve just starting thinking about adoption or you’re well into your journey, these books offer insight, advice, and support for parents at all stages.
Adoption: Choosing It, Living It, Loving It
If you’re new to adoption, Ray Guarendi’s “Adoption: Choosing It, Loving It” is a good way to get acquainted. A psychologist and adoptive father of 10, Guarendi is well-versed in adoption. His book takes a look at common misconceptions and sets the record straight. It’s written with some humor and as a way to give hope and encouragement to people considering becoming parents through adoption.
The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family
When you and your adopted child come from very different backgrounds, connecting can sometimes be challenging. “The Connected Child” is a lifeline for parents of children from other countries, cultures, or who have special needs. Author Dr. Karyn Purvis dedicated her life to researching child development and helping children with trauma, abuse, or neglect begin to heal and become a part of their adoptive family. Her book teaches parents how to approach a child’s unique issues with compassion.
The Whole Life Adoption Book: Realistic Advice for Building a Healthy Adoptive Family
Before you adopt a child, there’s a lot to learn. “The Whole Life Adoption Book” is another good read for those who are considering adoption. It tackles several questions, like what’s the impact of adoption on biological children, and other common concerns adoptive parents can have. The book also offers reassurance that you’re not the first to have questions and concerns and that there are answers.
Adoption: What Joseph of Nazareth Can Teach Us About This Countercultural Choice
Christianity teaches that Joseph of Nazareth was the adoptive father of Jesus. Russell Moore’s “Adoption: What Joseph of Nazareth Can Teach Us About This Countercultural Choice” draws on Christian themes to discuss the loving act of taking a child into your family. It’s geared toward teaching Christian families the value of adoption and encouraging members of the church to consider adopting.
Modern Families: Parents and Children in New Family Forms
Healthy, loving families can come in many different forms. “Modern Families” challenges the old school of thought that children need a traditional family unit in order to develop. The book explains research findings that the quality of the relationship between child and caregivers is more influential for children’s psychological development than the number of parents, their gender, biological relation, or sexual orientation.
Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey: 52 Devotions and a Journal
The process of adopting a child is just the beginning. The real journey is parenting your adopted child and integrating them into your family. “Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey” provides inspiration and words of wisdom. The book’s theme is based on scripture and includes Bible quotes selected for their positive message.
Truly Yours: Wise Words on the Miracle of Adoption
Many times, people focus on the challenges — but adoption is also extremely rewarding. “Truly Yours” highlights all of the wonderful things it brings. Author Laura Dail is an adoptive mom herself. In addition to her own wisdom, she includes thoughts from well-known adoptive parents like Jamie Lee Curtis, George Burns, and Rosie O’Donnell.
Making Sense of Adoption: A Parent’s Guide
As children get older, they start to have questions about their history and how they fit into the world. As a parent, it can be hard to know how or when to bring up delicate topics, like telling your child they’re adopted or giving them a letter from their birth mother. “Making Sense of Adoption” is a parent’s guide to having these conversations. The book provides sample conversations and age-specific activities to help parents decide if their child is ready to have certain discussions.
Dear Adoptive Parents: Things You Need to Know Right Now - from an Adoptee
Unlike many of the other books which offer adoption advice, “Dear Adoptive Parents” is written from the perspective of an adoptee. Now a mom herself, Madeleine Melcher wants to shed light on what the adoption process looks like from the child’s perspective. She encourages new parents to focus on being the best parents they can be and learning to give the child what they need to feel nurtured and succeed.
Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Joy of Adoption
Many adoption stories are filled with hope and love. “Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Joy of Adoption” offers a selection of heartwarming stories of children and families who found each other despite difficult circumstances. Parents, birth parents, and adoptive children all share their stories of how adoption provided them with love.
Faces of Layla: A Journey Through Ethiopian Adoption
Layla House is an orphanage in Ethiopia. In “Faces of Layla,” photographer Emma Dodge Hanson tells the stories of the children in the orphanage through beautiful portraits. Learn about the personal journeys of these children, and what their hopes for the future are.