Let's be real: when it comes to taking care of kids with diabetes, it can seem like a mom's world. We know that dads love their kids just as much, but sometimes it can seem like moms are the only ones going to doctor's appointments, picking up prescriptions, and negotiating 504 plans. Women also tend to be more comfortable talking about their emotions, so it's no surprise that we have a huge community of D-mom bloggers.

But there are plenty of dads involved in our D-community too! And with Father's Day coming this Sunday, we wanted to spotlight some of these fabulous fathers who are sharing their stories and offering unique perspectives on raising a child with diabetes — and why they think it's important for dads to get in the blogging (or tweeting) game! Please enjoy our "mini-interviews" with highlighted D-dads today:

Red Maxwell, North Carolina

Dad to Miller, 17, and Cassie, 15 (diagnosed at age 18 months)

Blogs at Daddybetes, tweets at @rpmax

DM) Why do you think it's important for fathers to be involved in the diabetes online community?

RM) Moms and daughters and women with diabetes are much better at communicating than dads. I think it's just their nature to be better socially than men. If more dads like me joined the conversation, I think that it would not only help other dads who take care of children with diabetes, it would also let moms know what it's like from our perspective.

What do you personally get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

Blogging and tweeting have helped me share diabetes information that I've stumbled upon or painstakingly researched. Once I learn something, it's nice to be able to help someone else who may be wondering the same thing. I remember feeling so lost and hopeless after Cassie was first diagnosed, and I wished there were better online resources back then.

What does your child with diabetes think of your blogging? Do they think it's cool or do they get embarrassed? Do you have any restrictions for what you blog about?

If I'm posting something that may be sensitive, I'll ask her first before publishing it. One time I wanted to put up a thank you note to her mom that she had written, and she hesitated. I waited a week after she had enough time to think about it, and she gave me her consent. It's not only important to respect your child's right to privacy, you have to respect their wishes too.

Bennet Dunlap, Pennsylvania

Dad to four teens, two with diabetes (diagnosed at age 10 and 7, respectively)

Blogs at YDMV, tweets at @BadShoe

Why did you start blogging about diabetes?

I was involved with a number of diabetes-related forums, ADA, CWD and some others. After our first CWD convention my daughter told me that I should write a blog because she felt I had a different perspective on diabetes — I'm still not sure if it's a good thing to have your kid say you have a 'different perspective.'

Do you think it makes you a better caretaker of your children? If so, how?

Oh hell yes! I think that we are at a point where being a better caretaker is very heavily involved with trusting and supporting the kids steps toward independence. I know that much of my thinking on the importance of that is a direct result of CWD's Friends for Life and some of my fellow bloggers.

What advice do you have for a dad who might be hesitant to start blogging or tweeting?

Blogging and tweeting are not anywhere as significant as being there through diabetes. Joe Solowiejczyk, CDE and guru, often talks about the how easy it is for a CDE to pull a family together for training as an indicator of future success dealing with diabetes. In the most basic terms, does dad show up? So I am less concerned that dads blog or tweet than that they bring the A-game to diabetes. Be involved, go to Friends for Life, know what is up, be dad, embarrass the kids with ugly golf shorts. Social media doesn't matter, as long as dad is not hesitant to deal with diabetes.

That said, I welcome all the crazy dads online. I have friends around the world I have not met. There is the one dude in Texas I would really like to have a few beers with. I welcome more into the ranks!


Steve Gilbert, North Carolina

Dad to John, 20, Krista, 14, and Lia, 9 (diagnosed at age 7)

Blogs at Without Envy

Why did you start blogging about diabetes?

At the time of Lia's diagnosis, I was putting what I thought were the finishing touches on a dramatic novel I was writing. The news sent me into an emotional tailspin that made fiction feel second-rate to the tragedy that was happening here in the real world. So I started writing about diabetes and how it was affecting our family.

What do you get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

Writing is a passion of mine. Before I quit the corporate world to pursue writing full-time (which, by the way, I still am pursuing, sad to say!), I would wake at four in the morning to write. With Lia now having diabetes, I was waking for other, more substantive reasons. And rather than lie in the bed and give those thoughts free, chaotic reign, I corralled them by night and day into what was for me something meaningful and truthful. I felt publishing those efforts on a blog would first and foremost keep me honest about my emotions and just maybe it would put me in touch — which it has — with others who felt the same way.

Do you think it makes you a better caretaker of your children? If so, how?

I don't believe I — or anyone else — needs to blog or write about diabetes to be a good caretaker. In my opinion, health has little to do with tapping into your creativity, unless of course, you are working with science toward treatment or finding a cure. What it does do is give me the means to express and understand how I feel about diabetes, and in particular, how I feel about my daughter and my family in relation to diabetes. Thinking about Lia and diabetes and our family in that raw, truthful way allows me to write honestly, and helps me to understand and appreciate what this disease means to them from their perspective, not just mine.

Tom Karlya, New York

D a d to TJ, 24, Kaitlyn, 21 (diagnosed at age 2), and Robert, 15 (diagnosed at age 13)

Blogs at DiabetesDad, tweets at @Diabetesdad

Why did you start blogging about diabetes?

Two things I remember vividly: First, I felt our experiences, even though more personal than strictly coming from a medical professional, could be just as valuable to another family going through what we went through. The second thing I remember was that I felt an obligation to be part of the process of the same community that was a help to us during the early years and that became the Online Community. We have come so far since that time but it is still people helping people.

What do you get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

The satisfaction that I am making a difference. I feel, personally, that I belong to a community — a community dedicated to helping others. I need to look at myself in the mirror and say I am doing everything I can to both find a cure for my kids and also that I am learning everything I can to help them. In as much as I write online, it is the feedback I receive that empowers me to realize that together we can change the devastation of diabetes into a controllable disease that one day will be eradicated.

Do you think it makes you a better caretaker of your children? If so, how?

Absolutely, the knowledge from the online community is so incredibly useful. It is a live encyclopedia of diabetes information. In addition, if there are any questions, there is always someone online who I can ask, "Hey what do you know about...?" and almost instantaneously a response is given.

Scott Benner, New Jersey

Dad to Cole, 11, and Arden, 7 (diagnosed at age 2)

Blogs at Arden's Day, tweets at @ArdensDay

What do you get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

In the beginning, I was trying to spread awareness. Along the way I realized that my experiences were becoming a sort of roadmap for newly diagnosed families and a comfort to others. It's a relief to know that the issues you experience aren't unique or an indication that you are failing as a parent.

Why do you think it's important for fathers to be involved in the diabetes online community?

There is a real opportunity to gain a male perspective in a situation that is generally female-dominated. If my 40 years on the planet have taught me one thing, it's that men and woman rarely see things the same way. I think multiple perspectives are particularly valuable when managing type 1. It's nice to have an opinion that doesn't mirror your own. Let's face it, woman are mostly responsible for the day-to-day stuff and it's difficult to spend every day with type 1 and then have your spouse come home and start making suggestions. It's tough to take that advice at times. Having other dads involved and sharing is a great way to hear other thoughts without that crazy feeling that you're being judged. Let me tell you, Girls, I understand more than you know. Nothing is easy about raising children and running a household.

What advice do you have for a dad who might be hesitant to start?

If you think that sharing your feelings and experiences is something you'd like to try, I say get to it. I was the type of person who wanted to take care of things on my own. I speak to a lot of mothers on the phone and they all have one thing in common: they're scared. The simple act of allowing yourself to be afraid and then understanding that you aren't the only one that feels these things releases so much anxiety. I hear that my blog helps people quite a bit and it's one of the most rewarding sentiments that I've ever received. If I'm being honest, I get so much more in return than I give. You should blog, even if you only do it a short time. It'll change your experience with all of this diabetes parenting stuff for the better. It'll reward you in ways you can't yet imagine.

Thanks to ALL the dads rocking in the DOC.  And we hope you have a wonderful Father's Day, free of D-drama! :)

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