Women talk about the role of their husband during the pregnancy and as a Dad.
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Dr. Georgia Witkin: Hi, I'm Dr. Georgia Witkin. Kimberly Pauley: And I'm Kimberly Pauley Dr. Georgia Witkin: And I'm Kimberly's mother Kimberly Pauley: And I'm a mother of two boys, Dr. Georgia Witkin: Which makes me GG for grandma Georgia. Kimberly Pauley: So, welcome to GG and me. Dr. Georgia Witkin: We talk about everything. Kimberly Pauley: We'll, the reason I talk to my mother about everything is that she is a professor of psychiatry, professor of OB/Gyn, she has written 10 books on stress, and she is a Fox News contributor. Dr. Georgia Witkin: And Kimberly is a lawyer, a columnist, a college professor, and pregnant. Kimberly Pauley: So, we are gonna be talking about pregnancy. Please join us. Dr. Georgia Witkin: Okay, now let's talk about the guys who are not in the room, but they are here in spirit, the fathers. First, let's introduce ourselves. Kimberly Pauley: My name is Kimberly Pauley and I have 2 sons and I'm pregnant with my third son. Jenny Vynerib: My name Jenny Vynerib and I have Oliver here who is 3 weeks old and 2 older daughters. Susan Krauss: I'm Susan Krauss. I have a 3-1/2-year-old son and a 2-week-old son. Dr. Georgia Witkin: Okay, let us talk about dads. How that dads when you were pregnant with your first child? Let's -- first time, you know, we say we are pregnant. That's the new term. Were they pregnant too? Jenny Vynerib: My husband was not pregnant. Susan Krauss: Not pregnant. My husband was in shock Jenny Vynerib: Denial. Susan Krauss: For the first like 4 or 5 months. Kimberly Pauley: Yeah, mine too. Susan Krauss: Complete shock. Dr. Georgia Witkin: I mean, did they realize there's a baby in there or they're really thinking like life is gonna go on the same way, but there will be something else -- Susan Krauss: The later Jenny Vynerib: yeah Susan Krauss: For me at the beginning at least. Jenny Vynerib: Yeah. Kimberly Pauley: I think it's very hard for them to connect when you're pregnant. They are not feeling the things that you're feeling. They are not going through the things -- They can be excited. They don't have the same connection that you do. Dr. Georgia Witkin: Okay, when you hold up a baby, you fall in love. They baby is connected to your body. How long does it take them? Kimberly Pauley: I think runs through a year. Susan Krauss: Yeah Jenny Vynerib: Yeah, until they are walking and talking and -- Susan Krauss: Can go a baseball game Jenny Vynerib: I can work and play with them and say I love you Susan Krauss: Yeah Jenny Vynerib: I think women, you know, since you're looking to your baby's eyes in the hospital, you fall in love and I think that for men-- I don't know about your experience, but for men-- My experience was until they are really little people and toddlers, they are just kind of a blob. Kimberly Pauley: Absolutely Jenny Vynerib: There're a physical-- Susan Krauss: Yeah Jenny Vynerib: You know, something that needs attending to, diapers change, Susan Krauss: Yeah. And sort of like this a little of shock and all the thing like, you know, trying to be attentive, but kind of like, Oh my gush -- Kimberly Pauley: Overwhelmed with the responsibility of it all that now all of a sudden they have another person to take care of and -- Susan Krauss: I'm thinking about almost in terms of I noticed with my husband like financial, like okay now I have a child to take care of and for school and for all these and like the anxiety level for providing for his family became much more intense. And I he think he fell like a real grown up at that point and that processed up-- Kimberly Pauley: Which I don't mind. Susan Krauss: No, which is good, it was good, yeah. Kimberly Pauley: I'm glad that he felt that sense of responsibility. Susan Krauss: Definitely. Kimberly Pauley: But I have the same-- Susan Krauss: But they are not the same connection like with the actual child and their needs and everything-- Kimberly Pauley: With what I have with my first I remember falling in love just as you descr