Will living together ruin your relationship? Our panel sounds off on the pros and cons of living together before marriage.
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Sami Jarroush: Dear avid, ain’t got nothing on us. Your tango goes straight to the source and gets guys talking about sex, dating, make ups and break ups. I’m Sami Jarroush and this is That’s What He Said. If you’re dating somebody for extra month like I had a friend of mine, he dated a girl for over five years. They had a house together. They had poodles together. But over five years, not once did they ever pop the questions, I mean like “Is their a certain time line that you can date somebody before you have to either (A) propose or (B) break it off? Male: Apparently, the average amount of time is like two years 11 months. Sami Jarroush: And then how many? You want to make it exact, let’s say how may days? Say how many days? Male: At night time. Male: It might be 14 days. Male: Living together actually statistically really hurts the odds that you’re never going to get married or makes divorce more likely. Male: Never—said that because it’s like I’m going to go buy a car. Do you want this car “Yes” or just have it “Not at all”. No, either—would fall apart— Sami Jarroush: Somebody has a greater stake in the idea of getting married. It’s not 50-50. Forty years ago if you moved in together, that meant marriage was eminent. Today, the signals are not as clear. Male: But—I can actually tell you. It is the truth because I was pushing her, let’s live together. I was putting it “if we had live together, we will be, to get married kind of binds you through some of those early fights in that”. Those early speed—here like well this isn’t easy to undo. Living together is easy to undo. Male: Okay. This I said “I’ve said I love you” to more women than I said “Let’s move in together”. Male: I said to it a one woman. Let’s move in together. Male: Right. Male: Who should know how weird we are beforehand. Male: They don’t know. Male: Girls who know— Male: 50 percent no. Male: I think they are smart enough and intuitive enough that we fart, you know, without them around. Sami Jarroush: You’re dating the woman. You see how she lives. You spend a lot of time together. What information are you going to admit that you don’t already have? Male: Okay. Here’s an example—see, like I know that she could be sloppy like literally when I walk into the hall sometimes, I will redo my favorite moves from Bloodsport. I’ll do it like a move. It’s like my girlfriend didn’t and she wasn’t ease into that. It would freak her— Male: When you're dating and you go to her place and candles are lit—when you're married and you come home and candles are lit, you please cover I saw a lot. What happened in here that you lit the vanilla—