In this video we discuss the question: I courted a girl 4 months ago and want her to be my girlfriend, but she still loves her ex-boyfriend. She just told me that she has feelings for me. What should I do?
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Jennifer: Hey! Welcome to another One Minute Q and A. Here’s a question from Facebook. “I courted a girl four months ago and wanted to be my girlfriend but she still loves her ex-boyfriend. But, there’s a big BUT, she just told me she has feelings for me. What should I do?” Dan: So, how many guys has she had feeling for? So, I could court on this? Okay look—this simple one minute answer on this is she needs to make up her mind, you know, she has feelings for you, she has feelings for him but she’s going to have to decide who she wants to be with, just like you have to decide who you want to be with. And you definitely want to give her time to do that but don’t let her take advantage of you either. Jennifer: Don’t let her play both sides because— Dan: Yeah! Absolutely! Jennifer: Nobody wants to make the hard choice. Dan: Yeah! Really! And don’t put her on a—a lot of guys make that mistake. She’s a real living human being just like you. She has wants and needs, you have wants and needs, you know—is great. Jennifer: Well, that’s one thing too you have to understand that it have to match for both of you because a lot of times the guys like well, “This is the girl I want, she’s special, she’s different, she’s the one”. But if she doesn’t feel the same way, it wasn’t going to work. Dan: —kind of a thing with your own fantasy thing, real person, no pedestal, pedestal is bad.

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