Hits the Streets: What is the appropriate amount of time before two people sleep together? Should you discuss your sexual histories?
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Steven Fabian: This is, “That’s What He Said.” YourTango, gets guys talking about sex, dating, make ups and break ups. I’m Steven Fabian and today we are outside taking our “That’s What He Said” topics to the street. Well, what do you think is the appropriate amount of time before a guy and gal hit the sack, you know, a couple of dates, a month, a year, married? David: Maybe on our first date, I’ve got no problem with that. Female: I did hear if a girl sleeps with a guy on their first, they do not respect them do not want to date them again. That’s all for men. Steven Fabian: Agreed and I am a man. Brian: I don’t know if I would wait until marriage unless it was that sure, you know. I think it’s like a person by person thing. Male1: I guess on average it probably takes about five days. Male2: Third day. Male3: I would say the average amount of dates, if you're going to put number on it. It’s probably, I would say more or so 2.5. Andrew: Hopefully about an hour, hour and a half. No, come one that’s not funny, that keeps safe sex going. Kids get to know each other. Steven Fabian: Does a girl’s sexual history come into play when you're determining, okay, she is a girlfriend material. She’s life material? Greg: I think it’s kind of an awkward conversion actually, like to ask about a girl’s past sexual history. Mike: We all have our past, mine probably isn’t prettiest that anyone’s but—don’t go there. Male4: To get tied up in the past seems a little contra-productive. Male5: I like to know but I hate to know. Steven Fabian: Oh! Its like just give me the run about, right? Male5: Run down, ladies. Run down. Female2: I don’t think it matters like I think if you know, if you trust a person and I don’t think it matters what kind of history they have really. Female3: They do think you should understand each other’s sexual backgrounds to some extent so at least you know, you feel safe with that person. Male6: My wife was actually still married when we had sex. She was separated but she was—I’m her second husband she is like eight years older than me too. Male5: Oh I love it. It’s a funny, funny thing, isn’t it? Steven Fabian: Well, like it or not, that’s what guys think. This has been, “That’s What He Said.” Thanks for watching.