Learn how to use sex toys with your partner, how to introduce these props into your lovelife, and more.
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Angeli: Okay, so we have talked a lot about the solo aspects of having sex toy. Sebastian: You know this is a thing to remember when you are working with dildos and harnesses. Angeli: How would you go about introducing a sex toy in to your life, in to your partner? Sebastian: Into your partner? The first thing is a sex toy will never replace a human being. It is not the same thing, it will not love you, it will not give you affection. It will not wash the dishes. Angeli: Or even itself. Sebastian: Exactly, sex toys accentuate and add to what you already have. So, if your partner is shy, one thing you could do is start by introducing a smaller toy, one that is not going to be as intimidating as one of the big ones. Exactly, and using it on the bay muscles of the body, so shoulders, back, use it as a massage tool and then once your partner is comfortable with that, then you move on to the butt, legs, between the legs and then you can go a little bit further, but start in unusual zone. Angeli: So we want to dispel any myths about sex toys. Sebastian: Well, some people think that once you use a sex toy you cannot go back. Angeli: To the regular? Sebastian: To the real thing. And it is not true, it really is not. I mean you will have run out of batteries eventually and what are you going to do? But really it is not the same sensations at all and you are not going to feel love from a sex toy. You might love your sex toy but you will not feel love from your sex toy. And it is not an exchange of ideas and communication and affection that you would have with a loving partner. So what I tell everybody is, when you are reaching out stage of your relationship then yes, sex toys are an amazing addition to what you already have. And a lot of people will discover that. It is not going to replace anyone or anything. It is just a little bit extra.