Sex Therapist, Marriage Counselor and author Dr. Marty Klein explains whether sex toys are a valid part of a woman's sex life.
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www.EmpowHer.com EmpowHer asks: Are sex toys a legitimate part of a woman’s sex life? So what is included in a healthy woman’s sex life? What is included? Well we would say that her relationship to her own body, that’s important. We would say how she feels about the people that she’s being sexual with, that would be important. And then the question is, is her interest in having a clean bed instead of crackers in the bed, is that a legitimate interest? Her desire to have the window closed or the window open, her desire to privacy. People have conditions, people have conditions and different people have different conditions about what makes the environment an appropriate environment in which to have enjoyable sex. Sex toys are just another aspect of the environment. And some people like them and some people don’t. Some people want them and some people don’t. I think that whatever allows people to express their sexuality and experience it in ways that make them feel okay, I think that’s legitimate and I think you’d be hard make a different argument. It would be hard to say that–you know, it’s okay to wear lingerie in bed but it’s not okay to wear socks in bed. That it’s okay to want to window closed but it’s not okay to want to use a vibrator. I mean either we’re going to say that people own their own sexuality and can express it anyway they like or we’re going to say that somehow or other there are these objective rules that own your sexuality or god owns your sexuality. And I think that’s a really the wrong direction to go in. So I think that sex toys are a great part of people’s sexual arrangements to the extent that they want to use them. Now some guys, they’ll say, “Oh! If you have a vibrator, what do you need me for?” Well, the answer to that is very simple. Until they invent a vibrator that hugs and kisses and says I love you and says, “I love the way you smell.” And says, “I’m so glad we’re here together.” And really means it, then we need your partner.