Sexual rhythm is a big part of sex, but it often goes unspoken about or even noticed. When a couple's rhythm is in harmony, it feels great but when it's off, sex can seem awkward and unsatisfying. Here the women discuss the basics of rhythm.
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Juicy Talk for Women Cherry TV.com Cherry Dish In this clip, the women explain sexual rhythm. Female 1: How would I define rhythm to somebody in sex? I guess just the way that you 2 move together because I feel like when you're having sex rhythm, isn’t about what you're doing but it’s what both of you are doing together. I guess it could be about what you're doing but if it is about what you're doing, if the other person has another rhythm, it completely screws everything up. So I would think that rhythm would be what the 2 people are doing together. Female 2: And does it always work? Female 3: No. Female 4: I think it’s interesting because in my experience, a lot of guys have an internal rhythm that’s really different than women, at least for me. And so, it’s about like, finding that happy middle ground where like, he’s getting the kind of rhythm that he needs at like sort of intense, it’s you know, insistent and then I’m getting times when it’s intense and times when it’s like more mellow and I don’t know, measured. Female 5: I feel like I had a rhythm for a while that was usually good somewhere in the middle and my experience was that most of my lovers, men, wanted that rhythm to be faster, and although the partner I am with now, we both sort of figured out kind of by accident that the way, way, slow rhythm works perfect for both of us every time. Female 4: The slower is nice. Female 5: Yes. Female 4: I like it slower. Yes, the guy I’m with right now, it’s like, I think he’s autopilot is faster but he likes it slower too. But it’s like, you have to sort of communicate and convince him, okay, slower here a little bit. Female 5: Yes, there’s a little sort of nudges and ways of–you know it’s like if you're slow dancing with someone, how sort of it’s like okay you just sort of move feet a little bit so that you get into the right rhythm and it’s the same way with sex for me. Female 3: I think–I don’t know, I don’t like one set thing at any given time. I feel like it–with so many things, like it just depends on mood and there’s a lot of times when I’m like–I just like really, really hard and fast, sometimes when I don’t. And, yes, I mean it’s just something you have to work out and not even just like on a partner to partner basis but even within your time with one partner– Female 4: Day to day. Female 3: Yes, exactly, hour to hour. Female 4: Or moment to moment. Yes, exactly. Female 1: Yes, it’s true. I mean, what starts out slow might end up being fast and I feel like good sex and a good rhythm is when he’s going fast and you're like, I’m ready to go fast too. And it’s just–you just keep at the same pace with each other. Female 6: Sometimes I turn into the 13 year old boy that just wants to hammer it out, right. And she’ll usually look at me but you know it’s about slowing down and even completely stopping right before she gets off and like really savoring that moment. So it’s a lot of teasing and pushing and kind of seeing with their face–you can tell them you're going too fast, you know. Female 4: Stay in rhythm with your partner. Female 2: In those cases, so are you kind of sometimes putting your rhythm aside to make–maybe bring her rhythm more toward the forefront? Female 6: Yes. I mean it’s lucky that I'm not a boy and have to shoot my load you know, and let’s make it over sex, like I can stop and slow and then when you start orgasming and you keep it going, holy cow, like when you hit it, it’s great. So, I guess we’re lucky as girls that we don’t have this like, come factor you know. Female 4: Because sometimes it’s sexual imperative. Female 5: My boyfriend says, because sometimes I need it slow and he could go a little or sometimes slow gets him so excited though that he tells me he has particular fantasies like on sexual fantasies that he uses to slow himself down, keep himself from coming so that he can be at my rhythm. Female 6: Like kittens and puppies. Female 5: Yes, like several cans and stuff li

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