OB/GYN Dr. Lisa Masterson describes the four phases to a woman’s sexual arousal process: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.
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The Four Phases of a Woman's Arousal Process Lisa: This is a very common complaint that women have. They’re sometimes not sure if they’re having the big O, orgasm. True. Travis: Wait the woman is not sure she had an orgasm? Lisa: Yeah. Travis: How do you not know if you had an orgasm? Lisa: Well, if you haven’t, then you don’t know. It’s kind of equivalent to a lot of women will say, “How will I know if I’m in labor?” And you say, “Trust me, you’ll know.” It’s like once you know, you know. Because -- Travis: So if you have to ask the question, does that mean you never had orgasm? Lisa: It means you probably have never had an orgasm. And this is -- that you know, this is such a common complaint with women. And the reason is because a lot of women don’t know their bodies and they really rely on the man to give them the orgasm and that’s why we talk so much on the show about knowing your body, about self pleasuring because you have to know what does if you in order to communicate that to a man. But there are phases to the whole sexual arousal process. There’s the excitement, plateau, the orgasm and then the resolution. Now, the thing about an orgasm is what happens is there are muscular contractions that’s going on. And so what happens as these muscular contractions around the clitoris and in the vaginal wall and actually in the uterus as well. And so it’s a high tension going to a peak. And so there’s lots as proceeded by a large amount of attention in the whole body, the whole body is tensed and then a release. And what you may see with the woman as you may see rapid heartbeat, you may see flushing. You know there’s that sexual flush that can happen and then you may even -- you know share some sounds. Travis: Alright. So let’s go down to the checklist. So involuntary muscle contractions, that will happen. Lisa: That will happen. Travis: How about rapid breathing. Lisa: Rapid breathing. Travis: Check mark. So how about that flush? Lisa: That’s sexual list, everything you’re all the blood is rushing to everywhere in your body. Travis: How about the one here you met Sally orgasm in a café where there’s a lot of screaming? Lisa: Well, you can have noise but screaming usually means the woman is faking it. Travis: Darn it. Why does a woman think that that’s. Lisa: Because a lot of times she wants it to be pleasurable for both and she thinks that what’s expected and you know she wants to please the other partner. And so that’s what happens. But in the reality, most women don’t have orgasms from -- if you know, penetration from sexual intercourse. They have it from friction and other parts and so lot of ways to help a woman to have an orgasm is to pleasure her more before actual sexual intercourse. Travis: So the point is there are these checklists of things that happened when a woman has an orgasm. And if you haven’t met those criteria as of woman, you probably haven’t had an orgasm. Lisa: Exactly. Travis: And it’s time to do a the self exploration with you and your partner to figure out what you always say -- what -- Lisa: Pushes your buttons. Travis: As a man, should you feel like you know what I’m under performing because my wife only has one orgasm when we have -- Lisa: Absolutely not. Because I think still things sometimes that’s learned as well. They’re just finding out what it’s about and then actually you can help yourself attain multiple orgasms by knowing your pelvic muscles, by doing those Kegels, by strengthening those muscles and knowing how they react, and knowing what your body does. The more confident you feel in the body, and your body in the more power you have all over the body, the more you’re going to be able to enjoy and more your partner is going to be able to enjoy it. Travis: Thank you for that education Dr. Lisa. Lisa: You’re so welcome.