Learn how to teach your children the basics of upholding manners.
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Alright, we are going to talk about a very touchy subject, children's manners. I have to tell you from my experience the best way to do that is to make it a fun thing. I use to tell my son, "One day you might get invited to the Queen's House, to the Palace and you really have to know how to eat," in a way that is not offensive to others. So let's practice pretending we are at the Queen's House. Kids really like play, they love to make pretend. So you can let him joke about what's not polite, like eating with their hands and shoving things in their mouth and then you try the good way. It's really important for children to understand that people remember kids that say hi and say bye and they might get the wrong impression if the child is not friendly. I have made a point of always being pretty consistent that way myself, so that I am setting an example for my son. I think it's a good idea if you can always explain to children why you are requesting certain behavior because it gives them a feeling of being respected and understood and they also are interested in actually performing for you and doing things well, if you give them a good reason to want to do it. So, you can make up any kind of story you want if you make it fun, it really is a challenge for them and I have found that it works all the time if you are kind with a child, I do it with my son's friend still. I say, "Hi Jack, how are you doing?" Or when they leave after a sleep over, "I say Jack you forgot something," and I will stand there like this and I make it fun so they know, bye Careen, thank you Careen and I say, "Oh, that's so nice." Also I have to tell you that expression you never get a second chance to make a first impression. And if you repeat that to a child then you tell them someone might get the wrong idea about you, they are going to think you are not friendly if you don't say hi, if you don't say thank you. It's really not that hard to get a kid to behave well, if you treat them with respect I find that is probably your best bet and you set the example.