In this video, a group of women discuss on teaching children the real names of body parts.
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Mara Lee: I have to say I've tried desperately to be very proper with my kids and teach them the right words for their body parts, because I didn't want my daughter running around in school saying front, bottom, or whatever word. So one day I sat them down and I said, you've got a vagina to my daughter and you've got a penis to my son. Of course, vagina quickly turned into pagina or pajamas now. So now my son walks around and saying that vagina has got a pajama, and I say, have a pajama. So it's -- and my husband cringes that I do believe it's kind of important that they don't shy away from it because I know that how was it when I was growing up, nudity and body parts weren't told about openly, and you don't want people to feel shy or your kids grow feeling shy or coed. Rachel Royce: They can have effect in them. My boys are absolutely obsessed with their willies and mummy's willies and, mummy, where is your william, was it cut off and all that. Actually it's very ridiculous. I guess that's quite normal for kids to curious, aren't they? But they kind of get embarrassing when they come out with these kind of these things in front of visitors or when they were saying in the playground and there is also this thing about what is an appropriate behavior for them between each other, because they like the way it feels when they touch their willies or penis I should say. Is it appropriate for my younger son be touching my older son's willies, he wants him to, but you know what you say to kids? Mara Lee: Actually to my son, because he just will happily sit there with his hand on his pants on the couch, just like his father. And what I've taken to say -- do it in private, that's the prime thing and I am told him what private parts are all about. They -- you don't enjoy it from the people. I know what scoop is, just do it private. So he -- quickly the hand will go out and he go back into this. Ingrid Tarrant: But what's he actually doing? Mara Lee: Oh, he plays with it, he stretches it, tries to put his finger in the foreskin and just stretches it again -- Ingrid Tarrant: I suppose this kind of -- so I am like to do this. Cheryl Baker: What is Nick playing with? Ingrid Tarrant: Yes. Cheryl Baker: Which we haven't told. Ingrid Tarrant: Yes, yes. It's interesting that you were talking about willy and you were talking about penis, because that's the thing as well. I find I have to say, vagina and penis, I find so clinical. I like sort of like, willy, fanny, and - Rachel Royce: What to say for front portion, oh that's fanny. Ingrid Tarrant: Yes, yes, sort of stuff like that. Cheryl Baker: My -- say front bottom, yeah. But they know and I tell them from an early stage that the boys' one is called penis and the girls' one is a vagina and I tell them -- Rachel Royce: Oh, they know the -- Cheryl Baker: I tell them all about what happens when a baby is born and everything. Rachel Royce: -- Ingrid Tarrant: Did you volunteer that or did you respond to them asking you? Cheryl Baker: I volunteered it, possibly when they were too young to understand. Ingrid Tarrant: Because they say that when a child asks, it's the time they're ready for the answer. Mara Lee: Yeah. Ingrid Tarrant: You shouldn't pass the information at all. Rachel Royce: But mine are asking about -- I am terrified to try out because they set experimental, they do play with that this whole time. I am frightened if I say well, you know, how you get a baby is willy goes up in the fanny, they'll be trying on their girl friends you know, because why wouldn't they? Ingrid Tarrant: That's interesting. Rachel Royce: Isn't it? That six and seven. So I am quite frightened to tell -- Ingrid Tarrant: -- bits, you know, that's right, girl friends with on -- school used to have a table, this is an kindergarten and everything. And there were two-two table. This boy Bruce sat next to me and he used to do that but everybody did, it wasn't sort of unnatural, only because we happen to be in that environ