BetterTV's relationship experts Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal answer your question about a relationship that has gone stale.
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Rhiannon: Before the baby, hopefully you have a strong relationship. Time for Ask Matt and Tamsen. Tamsen: Hi everybody, Matt and Tamsen here coming to you today from midtown Manhattan where the sun is out, the snow is gone and of course, we are ready for spring. Matt: It’s beautiful out, nice to be outside. Tamsen: Alright, were here to answer your questions, dating, love, and relationships, whatever they are. This one comes from Chicago and it comes from Debra. Debra says, “Dear Matt and Tamsen, with spring cleaning in full effect what can I do to spiff up my dating life. It got a little still over the past few years.” We certainly understand that. Matt: Well, we don’t. Let me tell you something, the thing that brings the two people close together, familiarity, can actually be the thing that breathes complacency and that’s a really tough thing. When a guy gets too familiar with her, he doesn’t feel that he has to do much and then the relationship gets really still and that’s what it seems this woman is having a problem with. Tamsen: Yeah, Debra’s been dating somebody for about two years. You know what, Debra, you have to look at it like this, even though you’ve invested a lot of time in the relationship, if you’re not happy right now, you might need to move on. When we say, spring cleaning, sometimes you have to spring clean that address book every once in a while Matt: Debra, let me tell you something, just remember, every boring night you’re sitting on the couch with the guy you’re not happy with, is the same night that Mr. Right is walking by your house without you because you’re not out there to meet him. So, get away from this guy, don’t be afraid to be alone because it’s much worse to be lonely with someone than to be alone. Don’t forget that, you like that? Tamsen: Absolutely, I do like that, it’s truly is about just kind of cleaning up the situation, getting it all out of there and bring something in fresh, so it might be what you have to do and that means you get out of your comfort zone and don’t say no to anything, say yes to any invitation that you get. Matt: And I want to do this across the board. Everyone that is in a relationship that is not satisfying, I want you to get out of that relationship. I promise you there’s something better on the outside. Please don’t waste your time. Tamsen: Alright if you have any questions be sure to send them our way, we’re always here to answer them for you 24/7. This has been Matt and Tamsen coming to you from midtown Manhattan, until next time. Rhiannon: If you have a dating or relationship question for Matt and Tamsen, email them at AskMandT@BetterTV.com.