Splitting Parenting Duties Video

The moms/authors of 'Babyproofing' Your Marriage invade the Lounge to teach the DadLabs guys a thing or two about co-parenting. Biff! Take that Daddy Clay. Pow! Take that Daddy Brad. It's a 50/50 Parenting mom vs. dad cage match.
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Stacie: So you have the list of stuff you can easily divvy up. But then there’s the bottom part of the list of all the activities that are not that fun that we have to have a major negotiation about. Clay: Those are all, those are all women things, I’ve noticed. That’s really better. Cathy: Do you think we have an innate ability to put the trash out and an innate ability to empty a cat litter box. Clay: Women love that stuff. And we’re back on the lounge continuing our conversation with Stacie Cockwell and Cathy O’Neill, authors of Babyproofing Your Marriage. We’re continuing our conversation about the difficulties of living in a 50-50 parenting, marriage environment. And I guess, our question is, our ambition now is to achieve the ideal 50-50. Brad: Right. Clay: What are the best way, that’s the goal, we agree, that’s a fair goal. Brad: And I think the reality in some household. Stacie: Some. Cathy: Two. That’s what we’ve heard, allegedly. Stacie: It isn’t mine, it took some work. Clay: That’s the idea, we all agree, that’s the idea. It’s difficult given, you know sort of the changes in general and all the difficulties we’ve already talked about, it’s a hard ideal to achieve. So what are the best ways that we can all employ to get to 50-50? Because I ain’t there. Brad: Well, yeah, I think you need to figure out what each participants do. Stacie: The first you need to do is make an everything list. Everything from earning a paycheck, to mopping the floors, to taking kids to the birthday parties to buying your mother-in-law a birthday gift. I mean, everything you do. Cathy: Try cleaning, figuring out where you going to send them to school, figuring out probably vacations, Christmas gifts, I mean, we could sit here for the next 10 minutes and list everything. Stacie: But most people don’t do that. Clay: You put making a list on the list of things that you do? Stacie: That’s number one thing you do, you make a list. Clay: Okay, this makes perfect sense to me. You’re going to try and catalogue in an inventory of every task that you’re doing in a given week or a given month in the house. Stacie: Yes, because most people don’t even know the work that’s in front of them. It’s astounding. And everyone is just reacting all day and you get into this scorchy thing arguments of, Oh, you know, I just emptied the trash. Or Well, I just did the dishes. You want to gold star. So you really need to understand what’s in front of you first. Clay: I think, you know, women don’t understand what us guys do. They don’t have any idea. Cathy: This is why we don’t know. You haven’t listed it all for us. Clay: I got to change the oil, do they know that? Do they know that I’ve got to change the oil. Brad: Is changing the oil the same as watering the plants inside? Clay: I checked the tire pressure. Stacie: I changed the oil in my car a couple of weeks ago. Do I get points for that? Clay: With the filter range? You went out there and did it yourself, or you like to go to the jiffy lube? Brad: Okay, so that’s your everything list. It’s a huge list what it takes to keep the household going. Clay: So what do you think women, some of the things that women have on the list that men have no idea about, what did you put on there? Cathy: It should be things like even buying the kids their clothes. Stacie: Weeding out all the clothes. What about the old ones, you got a good will, it took me a whole day to do, I’ve got three kids. My husband had no idea. Cathy: Task like that, everything that involves the micro management of a child. Stacie: All the activities that you signed her up for. Cathy: Dancing to be sort of oblivious to dads. Clay: I know that what I don’t want my daughter to be wearing. Right? Which is, it must be very difficult to shop for but it’s so nothing that says juicy on the bottom. Brad: Is that difficult to enjoy the cloths shopping? Because I’ll say, I think, there are intrinsic male activities like mowing the grass, washing the dog, that

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