Lorraine Thomas answers some more questions about parenting, such as how to handle your time when you have small children.
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Sam Norman: We have had lots of emails from viewers requesting help from our top parent coach Lorraine Thomas from over wearing parents who think they make best to tearaway toddlers Lorraine is with us today to try and sort out your problems and worries. Welcome Lorraine. We have lots of questions here and the first one is -- that she controls what happens in our home. How many times. I find myself doing things that I never do when I had children. I feel guilty about letting her sit in front of the TV for too long. I just need to have time to do things and is always a major tension, when I switched off. Sometimes it's just easier to let to watch television. Lorraine Thomas: I think toddlers that the power can strike parents. I think the television it's a sort of an interesting thing. It starts off thinking all that. Is it really helpful? Sometimes they take control of this and they run the live that it runs the whole family and when you have your meals and when you have your bath time. So I think you know every mom and that will know what that's about. I think in terms of the television, it's really important just to take as to step back and think I can sort out and I can't take control and won't do what I want to happen with the television rather than the television run your life, you know, you run your life. I think we all know that in the -- just sleepy I wake and switch it off. I cant deal with the screaming now. So in short time you think oh that's good Sam Norman: Exactly. Lorraine Thomas: In the long term we all know actually Sam Norman: Go and make your own bags madam. Lorraine Thomas: and they stated totally is kind of the -- we have for the teenagers. They get it now. Sam Norman: What you said was very interesting about taking a step back and saying I am in control, because kids have this way of just completely bulldozing you, don't they? Lorraine Thomas: Yeah absolutely. Sam Norman: And you do have to take a breath and think, now I am in control. I am the parent and if I don't like this we are not going to do it. Its very empowering sometimes. Lorraine Thomas: It is empowering and I think sometimes as a mom we achieve so much on a daily basis. We ourselves getting to very hard time and guilt something you know we do so brilliantly and I think sometimes the enormity of being a mom or dad, you know all the things that you ought to do can be so, and still overwhelming you don't tackle any of it. So whats they. Over the next seven days make TV your priority, you know take, break down the big picture of that whats haunting you and really take control of the television. I think there are few things that you can do and I think I have worked with lots of moms and dads who found the television can be a real challenge in their house, I think you know decide when you want your child to watch and what you want them to watch. So write in the schedule. You think okay these are the times I want to be doing something and I am happy for my child -- you know what I am telling. I know when I am watching I feel comfortable about it. Decide where you want to have the TV free zones. Lots of moms say to me, we put the television on just before bedtime or just before meal so they could watch while I am getting the meal ready. But that's when you have the biggest tensions, because if you want to turn the television off, so come and have their tea and they are in the middle of a great, something -- and the same at bedtime to do, because they have got this little tea they are enjoying and is suddenly bedtime. So think about the things to do. Just next seven days just look at those half hours and think what can I get them to do and keep those as the TV free zone. And I would definitely say and keep the bedrooms. Every evening parent can decide what to do. Keep the bedroom as a TV free zone. You know lots of moms say they are not being they have thought of telling people what to do. But lots of moms have said to me we bought a new televisio