A group of dads discuss their experiences and pinions about how parenting changed their social life.
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Jonathan Wills: I am going to be a bit careful of this subject guys because I've got three girls, six, four, and three, and you talk about the things you miss before and you get yourself into a deep voice here. But what I mean a big one for getting out of clubbing and buzz and stuff like that, I've always played a lot of sport and I suppose that was one of the things I thought really guilty about. The other thing is my chosen sport. I would naturally go and play automatically is cricket. That is the first thing which -- for start, I have to say I am interested in really understanding cricket, doesn't like the game as much as I do. So I thought about leaving at 10 o'clock in the morning, see you at eight. Yeah, that's really going to go down well. So I mean that was the thing which sort of suffered a little bit. Again, in the last couple of years, on an average I back about 15 almost. Kevin Day: Congratulations with the scooping. I feel this is a problem because Ed was a happy accident, we hadn't planned him. Both our careers was going really well at the time. This is the thing that most people said to me, it's going to be a problem, it'll be a problem for both of you because your lifestyles, you know, you've got quite hectic lifestyles, you go out a lot, it's going to -- all the things have worried me after Ed was born. That was probably the least worrying because we adapted quite quickly to it, having a day. Then for most it was a positive change. I think the one thing that really missed him having by which flexibility, because we were living a life where by at 10'o clock in night, you can suddenly say, hold this guy, I'll just do something. So he was a little bit tiny but we missed, which is not bad in the great scheme of things. Being compensated by having a fantastic child in us, it didn't bother me because although yes I do miss our little bit but on the other side, Ed was fantastic. So it was a such a good things, it was such a positive thing. I find it difficult to actually think now, these nine years after if anything I miss too? I do miss really. Damion Queva: I agree with you on that to a point wherein I didn't realize what I've missed until a couple of years later because that's funny thinking, hold a second, this is a nut. Chris Brooks: Yeah. Damion Queva: You know, he is really like, baby I feel like a man, you know, I had a child quite early so explain to us, how is life on the second -- responsibility now. So everything that mine makes me do at that time, which was party and being responsible and so still you know, chasing after the girls. I was like, I am here, isn't this what we all do. Then, you know, brilliantly, hold a second, maybe good to get back again. If I am really honest about, I think I just kind of look back every night and will it be great to drizzle -- there again and sort of like, can I still dance or whatever the case might be I think. Chris Brooks: So you danced before? Damion Queva: I was a really great dancer before. I was like, hold a sec, I am shopping, I won't do this anymore. Kevin Day: I think that's -- say what's we didn't do, we missed doing things together because most of our social life was based around work anyways. I do a gig, then I was working three or four hours a week, and you stay on out for the giggling with comics and drinks and whatever. So we attended for the first couple of years, we hardly did anything together; I was touring for the six months of the first year. So my routing didn't changed drastically anyway. So I am Ally's answer would be different, I am sure she missed a lot more things if she was obviously tied down a lot more than I was but I think that's the biggest miss apart from that. Chris Brooks: I think it's easier for us when we can go straight back to work a couple of weeks later. Kevin Day: Yes. Chris Brooks: And you sort of socialize at work, it's going to couple of - going to for drink out for night. But this one is not easy. So when you're sitting a