"I'm 33 and I have a great job, friends, and family. While I've had serious relationships in the past and go on a fair amount of dates, I'm still alone. Why am I still single?" -Tracy, Colorado
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“I'm 33 and have a great job, friends, and family. Well, I've had serious relationships in the past and go on a fair amount of dates, I'm still alone. Why am I still single?” Thanks for the question Tracy. It’s one we hear a lot but answering that can be difficult. Women today are self sufficient which can make them picky and unwilling to compromise. But if you’re looking for love, be flexible. Don’t have a list that you run down on meeting a potential mate and don’t count amount if he doesn’t match your specific criteria. Standards are good, rigidity is not. It sounds like your single life is right where you want it to be which is great but if you want to share your life with someone you need to be able to open up. Many single women think deep emotional; involvement and depending on someone means you’re not self sufficient. That’s not the case. In a healthy relationship, both partners support and lean on each other. The most important way to develop a relationship is to physically spend time with someone. In the age of Facebook and Twitter, it can feel like we’re making connections but social networking encourages us to look out for ourselves above other people I supposed to forming real bonds. This type of thinking does not lend itself to finding or being in a relationship. Don’t be too stringent. Learn to depend on someone else and spend quality time with your dates. Soon you’ll be on your way to a meaningful relationship. Got a question? Ask it now at yourtango.com/questions.

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