In this relationship video Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal tell you whether you should tell your partner they're getting a bit on the heavy side.
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Tamsen: Hey everybody, Matt and Tamsen here. Okay, today we’re going to ask you this question what do you think if your partner is just left themselves go do you tell them straight up or do you trying to hedge around it or you do nothing at all? What do you do? Matt: You tell them straight up because if they don’t understand how important keeping yourself in shape and looking as good as you possibly can is to you than you're going to be eventually losing interest and relationships going to, you know, it’s going to tank, you need to be honest. Tamsen: I think what you have is you have to make sure that, you know, first of all we’re putting aside like illness something that they can.t control— Matt: Natural aging process, is gravity sure to happen, exact that’s true laziness. Tamsen: But I don’t think you tell him. What are you going to tell him straight up like put the raffles down, you got to get to the gym? Matt: You got to say, “Hey listen, this is not what, this is false advertisement.” You look the certain way when we first met? I understand the things are suppose to change but this is ridiculous I am not attracted to you and it’s because of your laziness and how you flat yourself go. I love you and I care but you know what this is not something that is a guarantee thing between you and I if you don’t care about yourself enough to keep up. Tamsen: I think he like cook healthier and make sure when you go out some place and they're ordering something that healthy you suggest going to— Matt: You're going to completely beat around the boost in. Tamsen: No, not beat around the boost but also you know there's a flip side rate you can tell somebody that you're not attracted and they don’t look good and they could completely going to depression and really not doing anything about it and it can be even— Matt: You know what I don’t think that’s going to happen, I think—no, that’s going to motivate them and just going to make them feel like they have to change because you see come place and see you something that happens in a lot of relationship because people thinking in the back of their mind what she's going to do divorce me, who cares. But honestly— Tamsen: The answer is yes. Matt: Yeah, that’s why I'm, you know, I try to keep myself really in good shape. Anyway tell him straight up, let them know but you're going to do and let's see what happens. Tamsen: Oh, I say you have a tragedy and try to work with them on it. What do you guys think this? How somebody straight up or do you—they don’t— Matt: Straight up. Tamsen: So you're feeling so it will get hurt? Let us know.