Within every sexual dynamic one leads while the other follows. Learn if the roles set in stone, or can sometimes change.
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Juicy Talk for Women Cherry TV.com Cherry Dish In this clip, the ladies are explaining submissive and dominant roles as play out during sex. Female 1: What to you guys is someone who is submissive in the bedroom, you know in a pretty basic sense and somebody who is dominant in the bedroom? Female 2: See I think it’s important to talk about submission because a lot of times people say submission and they mean it negatively like, “Oh I’m just passive” and I don’t think that’s what it is. I think its being in a receptive role where are you allowing things to sort of move you and then the dominant role is one where you are more of the giver, the holding the space for the other person. You're moving them but they’re both very receptive. I mean when you're in the dominant it does mean you have to be attentive to the submissive position. Female 3: Yes, when I say submissive I don’t mean like you're just passively lying there by any sort of imagination and I think that you can exert some amount of control when you're in the submissive thing. But for me submissiveness is just kind of a spectrum where on the one end it’s just being the person who has things done to them more than the person who is actively doing things to all the way to like a more extreme end when it’s like a submissive in a BDSM context. Where maybe you're in a master-slave relationship and you're the slave or you are the masochist and you are receiving pain. Although I’m making it kind of complicated because you can be a masochist could also be dominant, it really, really depends. If a lot of people just assume, “Oh, you're submissive” and if you're in a BDSM context, “Oh you're submissive, you like pain,” like you're just going to get bend over and spank and whatever. But, you can be someone who likes pain but also feels that they’re the dominant person in the relationship. Female 1: Okay, but in a regular, everyday- Female 3: Yes, in regular, in and on, in and on -- sense, yes. I think it’s the person who is getting done to more than the person who is doing. Female 4: Well the person who is reacting as opposed to acting with the, you know I mean, too used tired metaphors just like the person who does not have the reigns or who is not stirring the ship but who is totally there and part of it and involved in the dynamic– Female 2: In our culture, heterosexual relationships sometimes have a sort of assumed dominant and submissive role historically. Obviously, you know what I’m talking about, like women being the receptors and the submissive role but not necessarily, it’s not necessarily during the bedroom. However, I do think that’s something that’s like an over arching kind of environment that heterosexual relationships take place at. Juicy Talk for Women Cherry TV.com