Whitney Casey joins us to talk about the kind of sex that keep your relationship alive.
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Sex You Need to Have Audra Lowe: The hottest couples don’t just have great sex. They have different kind of sex. Rhiannon got the details on that and a whole lot more with Betters Relationship Expert and author of the Man Plan, Whitney Casey. Rhiannon: Hi Audra. That’s right whether your 25 or 55, Whitney is going to tell us the 8 types of sex every couple should be having. Wow, 8 types huh? Whitney: I know and the types that most couples aren't having. So it’s key. Rhiannon: And these are kind of fun. I like this topic. It’s a little risky. Yes, so let's talk about the 8 types. We’re not talking missionary here. We’re not talking about just the boring old stuff. We’re talking about 8 others. Whitney: Yes. So the first one is like a type of sex that you would normally have. And so, like missionary or if you're get into a rot of always having sex in your same bedroom or things like that, you need to break it up a little bit. Rhiannon: Okay. Whitney: And this isn't the last one, so don’t confuse us with the last one. You’ll get to that one. But this is just like trying new things in the bedroom whether its toys or things like that because actually this is interesting. What it does is that the anxiety of trying something new actually creates the same hormone of meeting someone new. Rhiannon: Wow. Whitney: So this kind of novelty sex is really great. It actually tricks your mind into thinking this is variety of people even though it’s the same person. And that’s really good for men. I'm telling you. They need this. They need variety. Rhiannon: Yeah. They like that. Whitney: Not in the same woman but this is how to give them more variety. Rhiannon: Okay. So what is maintenance sex? Whitney: Now this is important. Women need to know that it doesn’t always have to be perfect. You don’t always have to have everything all groomed and perfect. You got to have maintenance sex with your partner because one, the only way that men connect emotionally. So if you're tired and you just haven't sex in the long time, it’s very important to just say, you know what, nothing special in my lingerie, nothing tonight. Rhiannon: Let's just do it. Whitney: You just need to do it. And there are just times that you just need to suck it up and say, I'm not going to sleep. I'm going to have sex with my partner because its maintenance is the only thing – your kids are involved, your family is involved, your friends is involved this is the only thing with your partner that you have that is singular. Rhiannon: Okay, that just you two. Whitney: It’s just you two. Rhiannon: Okay, so what about the embarrassing moments in sex? Whitney: This is really important. I know this seems kind of crazy but if you think about it, there are sort of these sounds that come out of sex like you know awkward sounds like bodies slapping, doing crazy things. This sort of like -- and this is important because what it is to know that you are secure enough with your partner that these sounds will just sort of made for like interesting thought or after like that sound we made you know or it just -- you know that you're more—it brings you closer. Rhiannon: It’s like a little inside joke even when the kids are around, you kind of mention that. Whitney: And make that sound again. Rhiannon: Exactly. Okay, we know there's no sex like vacation sex. Whitney: Yes. Okay and not just a vacation sex. Rhiannon: That’s pretty typical. That’s easy enough. Whitney: Have it, do it and don’t bring the kids on vacation, on every vacation. Rhiannon: Yes! Make it an adult only. Okay, slow road to sleep sex. Whitney: Now this is interesting too because the means shouldn’t always justify the end there. Like you know, you need to be able to just have some sex, some -- that sexual moments together that lead up to sex. But necessarily always have that big end. You can just fall asleep, but very intimate close moments. Rhiannon: Okay and what about make-up sex? And we all know this is a big one. Whitney: Just a