Miriam talks about having sex after 60 and answers about whether it is boring.
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Empowher Strong Women Transforming Health Her Medical Encyclopedia www.EmpowHer.com EmpowHer asks: Is sex after 60 boring? My name is Miriam Hinrichs, I just turned 60 and I would like to talk about sexuality at this age. Many, many, many of my girl friends at this age are really, really not interested in sex. Whoever I talk to, they’d rather just forget about it, they would rather–they’re husband didn’t approach them. They would rather just forget about the whole thing. And it could be also a biological, natural cause because once you’ve passed child bearing and your hormones decline, maybe you're not really interested in sex because you don’t have the drive that maybe a male has because he has to continue planting his seed but we stop producing our babies. So may be biologically, there is a difference there, but what I find that for intimacy in a marriage to work, sex is really very, very important. It’s not the most important, but it’s important that you keep it going so that there is intimacy. There is the need to please each other. Because I know that by having sex, you really–you know what works for your partner and you know what works for yourself. You’re much more–if your comfortable with your partner or your husband, you're much more vocal about what your needs are and you know how to please the other person. So that in itself being so honest creates the intimacy that with age maybe you lose a little bit. And whatever works for you to keep that going, if it is telling dirty stories or watching dirty movies or having a glass of wine, an extra glass of wine or whatever it takes to keep it going, I’m prepared to do it because I think it is very important. And if you kind of sweep it on the carpet and you're not in the mood and women are hardly ever in the mood anymore at that age. They really are not, unless they have a new lover. But I think that that is a very important to keep going and the way I keep it going with my husband is we decide on a date, we say, “Okay, we have a date. Tonight, we have a date.” And then we know that tonight, we’re not going to watch the news with all the bad news on the television. So, we’re going to have a romantic dinner. We’re going to have candle lights. We’re going to prepare mentally for it. So it’s not like, “Are you in the mood tonight? Oh no, okay, good night.” So it’s really a process and I think that really works for us, that we decide tonight, we have a date. And so we prepare for it mentally and we prepare for it for whatever it takes, if its props, if it’s–I don’t know, some people like dressing up, some people like walking with high heels. Some people like–whatever it takes, I think it’s very important to just keep it going. I know what works for me and I know what works for my husband and I just do the things that I know works for us. For other people it could be other things, but it’s very important to just really keep it going. That’s my advice.