Emma Howard discusses the topic of sex and pregnancy, with the author of The Sex Book.
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[Music Playing] Emma Howard: Hello and welcome to Baby Talk. I am Emma Howard and today we are talking about a subject that's close to all our hearts, sex. And little later on the show we will be hearing what our famous mums and dads have to say on the issue and taking a look at some sexy underwear styles for pregnant moms. But first up I am joined on the sofa by Suzi Godson who I think is not wrong to say is an expert on sex and author of the very fervor sex book. Suzi Godson: Hello! Emma Howard: Thank you for coming in let me -- that is the most amazingly thorough book on sex, this is fantastic. We will be talking about it in just a moment. Now why would say you are an authority of sex because you have had four children? Suzi Godson: Well that means I have had sex three times because I had three. No I write for The Times relationship column and I have written this book and I also used to write for The Independent, I have been researching this subject for years and I have worked with doctors, experts, scientists, pharmaceutical industry. Emma Howard: And they were all in here. I mean it's amazing and you have got a fantastic Foreword by Professor Robert Winston. So I think this is a book that will reach across to many people because this is a subject that most people think well it's nothing to do with me, even though they might be desperately trying to conceive or be pregnant if they worry about sex. Suzi Godson: Well I think the thing that's different about that book, is it's really-really broad, it's not a sort of salacious book on, your Top a 100 ways to have an orgasm. It's actually looking at the whole subject of sex, so it takes sex right through life, whatever age you are, it looks at teenagers, right through to old age, it's gender neutral. So it applies to gay people and straight people and it's got all the kind of hardcore information but it's also looking at help and, you know, the peripheral aspects to the subject that often get overlooked in the sort of media, sort of super sexy... Emma Howard: Because those are all the less interesting basing sex for the media. Now we've got to say that you are holding little Grover, here she is three four months old isn't she? Suzi Godson: Yeah. Emma Howard: So your latest edition! She is lovely! Actually I think she is so good because she is sleeping. So you have come in today to talk to us about sex and pregnancy which I think is a very difficult issue for a lot of people. Some people glide through it very easily, sex is part of that pregnancy, not a problem at all. But for the people who it is a problem; it can be terrible problem, can't it? Suzi Godson: Well I think so, and I also think that as with all aspect of sex iys so hyped, the expectation that you are meant to have a certain amount of sex, and if you don't, you feel like you are not conforming to what's normal. The reality is we all overestimate what is the average amount of sex. I mean really a 20 year old might have sex twice a week, a 30 year old have sex once a week, a 40 year old have sex maybe once every couple of weeks. By the time you are in your 50s and 60s, they don't even statistically register the amount of sex that you have because it starts to slide off the scale and... Emma Howard: yeah, and suddenly when we have it more than the 20 year olds. Suzi Godson: So when you are in pregnancy it becomes an area where you realize that you should be having sex through pregnancy, because obviously every single pregnancy book that you read, it says, don't let it go, stay in touch with your partner. But the reality is partners often have a problem with it. A man is looking at his wife or his partner changing shapes so dramatically, carrying his child, it could be incredibly intimidating for them. They feel threatened both by the sort of physical changes but also by anxieties about damaging the baby. Emma Howard: And that's a huge one, isn't it? Fear of damaging the baby, it's just not true? Suzi Godson: I mean th