The archetypal hetero sexual relationship is that the male is dominant and female is submissive. But is that always the case? Does he always lead or do we sometimes take control? The Cherry TV ladies discuss power dynamics in the bedroom
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Juicy Talk for Women Cherry TV.com Cherry Dish Hear the women explain what roles they like and why. Female 1: I mean I tend to be pretty submissive but when I was young and like when I was just getting involved with people, it was because I was really shy and I felt like I didn’t know what I was doing. For me also it’s just like I feel that I have an extremely dominant personality of my real life, and it’s kind of relieving to not be a dominant person in the bedroom. And I’m really attractive to people who are going to dominate me and tell me what to do and I mean it’s not to say that I have no control in the situation because I do and I certainly exert it but I prefer to be the more the submissive one in the relationship. Female 2: I’m very much in top and assumes that I love pleasuring the bottom and that’s where I really get off is really doing a good job at taking control. And there are a lot of people that come off as tops, like topping the street, bottom in the sheet and they're on the bed and they’re just going to lay there– Female 3: I don’t know way too much about that unfortunately. Female 2: I’m sorry for you, but yes, you know it’s important when you're in top that you really like what you're doing. And in the bottom you know you have to be receptive and you have to allow that person to take you. Female 3: I’m–similar to you I have much more like out going personality in controlling my life and so I’ve actually been cultivating a submissive role in the bedroom. As a way of like exploring, “Whoa, what does it feel like to just really give someone else the rates, and it’s really exciting and colorful.” Female 1: So was it natural for you at all? Female 3: No, it’s not natural. Actually it’s more natural for me to be a top in the bedroom. Female 4: I had then find a lot with your experience and I think that innately, whatever that means, I am inclined to be submissive in the bedroom and because of those social dynamics, I resisted it for so long and took the dominant role in bed. And then when I gave in to it and I was with the partner who I knew of was my peer and soul mate as they appear, I could let go and trust in that and it was a totally new sexual experience. Female 5: I like throwing the ball back and forth. I was thinking like, “Oh, you know maybe sometimes he’s dominant and then I’m not,” but in reality, it’s he could start off being dominant and then like, I’ll tell him something to do. But like overall, he’s the dominant one, but I still like, he’ll toss the ball to me sometimes and like, “Oh, I want you to do this,” and then I’ll check it back to him and he’ll do something else. And it’s the same thing with me, if I start foreplay or having intercourse or something with him. Like if I tie him up, he’ll untie himself and then he’ll pin me, to like it’s kind of like wrestling, it’s fun and it’s not so–I mean don’t get me wrong, I like to get bent over at counter. You know what I mean and just have him really just go to town but a lot of times I like to, I like to throw in 2 cents every once in a while. Female 3 I like that too. Female 5: It’s just, I feel like it, mix it. I mean sometimes it doesn’t make it more fun for the most part it’s more fun for me. Female 3: But I think it’s interesting though that even outside, what you're saying before, outside of the kink, sort of like scene, within like any relationship there is this power to like that I think a lot of time goes unspoken and it plays out a lot in the bedroom. But also you know, in daily life, but I think it’s like the guy that I’m staying right, we haven’t talked about kink stuff at all but in the bedroom but I definitely feel like you're saying like the ball getting kicked back and forth. And it seems like he really gets a lot of pleasure out of the times that I am topping him. I mean I would never say I’m topping you, but he likes me to like, you know crawl on top of him and like hold him down and kiss him all over and just like kind o

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