Sexual health expert Dr. Catherine Hood answers how can I enjoy sex after childbirth in the company of Emma Howard.
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Emma Howard: Hello! We're answering questions on sexual health, I'm joined by Dr. Catherine Hood. Hello! Dr. Catherine Hood: Hello! Emma Howard: Catherine, we have got a question here from a mother of three. Her last baby was born six months ago and her husband is keen to start having sex again but she says I'm finding it difficult. How can I start enjoying sex again and I'm sure there are many women who'll be watching this, who'll be fascinated by your answer. They are exhausted, aren't they? Dr. Catherine Hood: They are exhausted, and it's quite natural for a woman, straight out of childbirth, just not want to go back and not to have sex. And most women will put off starting sex again until they have the six-week checkup generally speaking and that's a) due to exhaustion, b) discomfort after childbirth and just not having the time to really focus on it. Now she has been six months since her last child. That's actually quite a long time and I can sort of appreciate why her husband might because he is slightly sort of frustrated or finding it difficult to wait. And she herself I think is sounding quite frustrated but I mean the first thing is, are you giving yourself enough time to have sex. With three children, that's a huge amount of demand on your energy. Emma Howard: Mental and physical. Dr. Catherine Hood: Yeah, exactly. It's very difficult to find the space in which you can actually start to enjoy sex, because libido is something that is very fragile in women, and certainly life stressors, being tired, not having time, having distractions can really, really knock a woman's libido. Emma Howard: And you probably don't have it on your priority list, do you? Dr. Catherine Hood: Absolutely. So the first thing is you got to put it up in your priority list. So, the thing is find somebody to look after the children for a night and so you and your partner can reengage with each other, actually sort of come together again. Now, you don't have to come together only to have sex. Sometimes that's just far too much pressure to put on an evening. The first thing to do is to start to get intimate again with each other. So, hold each others, spend a night, go and do something romantic rather than looking after the kids and just let yourself start to sort of -- Emma Howard: Be together again. Dr. Catherine Howard: Yeah, reengage in that part of yourself that is still a sexual being. The other thing I know is a very practical, but she may be slightly concerned about the possibility of falling pregnant again. Now, when you have three children already, I don't know. Maybe she does. So get yourself in good conceptions. You know, feel confident and that's not an issue for you as well. Just take things slowly and just talk to your partner, keep communicating, tell them how you feel. Emma Howard: Fantastic advice as always, Catherine. Thank you very much. Well, if you have a similar problem, we hope we might have given you some help but remember, it's always best to go and see your own doctor for medical advice. Thanks for watching, we'll be back with more health questions and answers.