Tray elaborates on relatioonships, monogamy, infidelity and potential conficts on monogamous relationships.
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Now of course, if someone emotionally cheated ones, they are going to be worried that they probably are going to be emotionally cheat again. Well here is the thing. Everyone is going to emotionally cheat over, and over, and over again. We are so social creatures. We go through life and we drive on relationships with other people. There is no way around that, and to expect someone to go through their life and just invest solely on one person is entirely unhealthy, that's why we have friends, and that's why we have family. Now along the lines of emotional cheating, look it at this way. To emotionally cheat on someone you are truly and definitely in love with, well, then you have to be truly and definitely in love with someone else, otherwise, it's just a whimsical crush. This isn't necessarily a conflict. You can be in love with two people at the same time. But you can also be in love with two different people for two different sets of reasons. They are both fruit filling part of you in different way. What matters is what they do with these feelings, that they don't have a choice on? What they choose to do? They didn't choose to feel that way. How they choose to deal with it's another question altogether. Now perfect case scenario, they choose to not act on it physically this is ideally what you are going for. If they act on it physically, cut them loose, they are not worth your time. However, what happens when they can't choose to stop seeing the person anymore, what happens when they work with them, or if the person is a neighbor, if someone that they are going to see over and over and over again. Well this is what you have to bear in mind. If they could have made the choice, do not take it to the next level. When you got to trust them to keep making that choice over and over and over again because you can't expect them to choose the way they feel it, unreasonably. Ask them to rely to you and you asked them to rely to themselves, and then you are just turning a relationship into a web of lies, it's a ugly situation. So if you ever find yourself in this situation, stop, sit down, and talk to them. You are going to get upset, chances are you are already upset, you are going to get more upset, so go some more public. Don't do it over drinks, drinks, and let things get out of control. Go for a cup of a coffee, do it somewhere public where you are not screened by privacy or things aren't going to get explosive on our hand and try to get to the root of the cause. Once you understand why that special someone is finding something else in someone else, well then, you are now in a position to give them what that someone else has being giving them all along and hopefully the problem goes away. If it doesn't, still no reason to call and quit, if they remain physically loyal, what do you have? You have a human being, that's what you have, someone who is still going to rely on other people to help them feel them emotionally and psychologically and socially. It's just the way things are. So, next time you catch your special someone ogling, don't forget. Find out what it is. Hey, maybe it's just a hot body walking by, maybe it is a special someone. But if it not worrying on your relationship, if it's not compromising that commitment to make a choice, to choose you day, after day, after day, well then, things are still okay, and they can be solved. So that's the skinny on physical and emotional cheating. This is Tray Moore on moremojo and you have been watching watchmojo.com.

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