I have this problem with my girlfriend. I really love her and she really loves me too. She has had sex many times with her previous boyfriends. How can I forget her past?
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Dan: How can I forget her past? How careless in discussions ? Hi! Jennifer: And would you believe, I told you before we started this question, no drama. Dan: She told me no drama. Well, it has been what, six years now, and you are telling me no drama. Jennifer: Drama queen. Dan: Make sure guys, they can do drama. Even straight ones, straight ones can do drama. Okay, how can I forget her past. This guy wants to know, he says, I have this problem with my girlfriend I am going to quick tap in the card. I have this problem my -- I want to tap your card. I have this problem with my girlfriend, I really love her, this is not a problem. No comments, okay. I really love her, and she loves me too, but I am her third boyfriend, third. She admits to not being a virgin anymore. She has had sex countless times with her two ex-boyfriends, countless. When I asked her, if she really regrets what she has done in the past and ask her if, she really wished that I was as her first boyfriend and she did those things with me only; she replied, yes, and said that she wished she could have done those things already with me and not with others. All these images keep popping into my head what do I do? I don't know. Jennifer: Finding a new boyfriend. Dan: A new girlfriend, or consult a very good therapist. Jennifer: I think what she should do, is find the -- Dan: Yeah I know, this guy needs to find a therapist, a good one, possibly two or three day can sit at the same time. Okay, look but we are not into beating on someone or another but this is a very dysfunctional line of thinking. I mean, get over. Jennifer: Sorry we have our box two and our box tins and they are very tightly when we start talking about fundamentalist ideas. Dan: Yeah, fundamentalist is this -- you are a channel, not popular with the fundamentalist, okay. Jennifer: No, we have been told that we put the L in Liberal, okay, so sorry. Dan: Jenni, don't think political because we are not into the old political party. That's really where a lot of the stuff goes wrong because you pick only party side, you don't think. Think, think, think, you have this marvelous brain. Think for yourself. Jennifer: Think politics, think religion. Dan: Think life. Jennifer: Study them, learn them, discover them, don't accept it blindly. Dan: Kids should know what most of the major religions are, and be able to think for themselves, like they have been indoctrinated. Jennifer: That's another video. Dan:I am sorry, I am sorry. So how can I forget her past, even though I am being fundamentalist about this. Look, girls don't come with a safety wrapper for revealing pleasure. I mean your religion or your beliefs may have told you so, but it just don't work out way, and some people will say, but girls do come with a safety wrapper. I can't believe we got them telling us. Jennifer: That's a whole another topic but do you know the kind of things that people will do to protect their safety wrapper? Dan: Especially, there is a fundamentalist area. Okay. Jennifer: Anal sex, oral sex, all kinds of other stimulations so that they can say they are virgin. Dan: Some of those virgins do somethings that some of the non-virgin girls wouldn't even think of. Jennifer: And I feel sorry for those poor girls, we find them broken all by itself and they have never actually had sex. Their safety wrapper just kind of disintegrated because they got old enough when that happened. Dan: Yeah, maybe --- Jennifer: What about those poor girls? Dan: Yeah, but I am sorry. Jennifer made a good point, and I have to watch myself on coming too much on the middle of the question, but look, she has had sex countless times with her ex-boyfriends, so what? You go girl. Look, if you don't like it, there is always a right hand, I am sorry. But she is not going to wait her whole life, in case you show up. I am sorry this is just really, really dysfunctional thinking and it's not he is in a delusional state, that's really not going to lead to