Keri shares how people reacted when she chose to adopt instead of trying fertility treatments.
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How did people react when you chose to adopt and never try fertility treatments? Keri: People were very shocked. It was totally against the norm. It wasn't a path that most took and they immediately started asking us all these questions out of curiosity and what was happening - what happened - when I was working, I was working with a bunch of women and they knew everything about me, every time I came in once a month, they would say, are you pregnant? What's going on? What's happening? And finally one day when I came in and I just said, we are not going to choose to do fertility, we are going to adopt. Their mouths were dropped. What? What do you mean? Don't you want to be a mom? And I said, yeah, I can be a mom without conceiving a child and giving birth to a child, I don't have to - I don't feel as though that I have to give birth to a child to be a mom and we chose to adopt and that's the path that we chose to take. And it took a little while for people to kind of understand that, understand it and get used to the idea and my mom even said, oh Keri, why don't you just wait, wait and keep trying and don't worry about it, it will happen and I just said, no this is our decision. And they accepted it but it was so different from the norm that I think people weren't expecting. The norm is to go down the path to try all these options, to take the medication, to do all those stuffs and to hopefully eventually, become pregnant and our trend of thought was we wanted to be parents. I wanted to be mom, my husband wanted to be a father and this is how we wanted to have our family, that we didn't want to go down that path and for the various reasons, that we have discussed.