Lorraine Thomas answers some more questions about parenting and how to deal with small children.
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Host: We love hearing from you on the baby channel and as usual our mail bag is full to bursting with your questions about parenting. So we have invited one of the countries leading parent coach is the Loraine Thomas to ask your questions. Welcome Loraine and being a parent coach is sort of every moms dream, you would like to got -- any time day or night but always say the problems that arises familiar to you but very individual in the sense of stress I think this is the think that we are not supposed to feel as a mother, but one of common questions, a mom has come up this actually is a lady who is got 2 small children and she says I feel stressed, I am so exited to being a mom but not for my life is just fun take all the time, there is so much to do and never enough time, I want to have fun I want to enjoy being with them but I don’t just want to endure it, is not something you from those who influences sense of enduring motherhood. Loraine Thomas: I think can that’s sort of common feeling, to -- is that for room moms when they became a mom today suddenly they just so much to do there is save little time to direct. And you know moms and moms and that’s she says I didn’t know, I did with all my time before the -- came of, you know and they fantastic naturally do fantastically molding about the whole you know job of being a parent is really challenging is not a day today basis, and is the most important job that you have to doing in your life is there, and I see he just compensating -- Host: Pressure able to coop in order to I was fill very guilty she becoming all the people do this and I seemed to be stressful, It’s only me -- Loraine Thomas: I think -- I think with moms is that one of the big problems for moms to –let try to be the perfect mom, to make us, and your little baby comes along and you know in this life long could be in this really important, and you wont to be the perfect mom, and of course you need the perfect mom in the perfect baby doesn’t exist, so what should you really hard feel self to feel good about being a mom, and you make it really easy for yourself to feel guilt and to feel anxious, and to feel stressed. So I think you know in terms of enjoyment or injured it’s a really you know is I think its great, that the you know I feel its I childs cant questions because I think it’s a big decision the you want to think about when you are a mom, because actually to know the world you will obey because of him, you know we will dictate the way they see the world so you know and they -- baby nap, you know, in the toddlers and the teenagers if they grow up and your are fun take mom, that’s the world they say, and I know grow what sort of feeling for answering themselves, and I grow up and thinking you know that’s for adult, life is only about -- Host: We reflect our In sense of timing on them , that we say children go up having to do 25 different extra curricular activities, because and real stuff again but actually your home environment you should come deflate when need about -- minimize -- Loraine Thomas: Absolutely, so in terms of all fewer I think neither some really important think is today to think about and you know in a ways good think feels stressed, because it means a taking a dopes, but I think we need to stand back a little bit, and you know all these think about all thinks are on never ending you know mentally to do list, yeah you know we always go on and getting have late and moms are great they can always think of hundred to one things, one come in to use of -- and you know its wrong things think about all things we all need to do list, leave the half -- things we want to have the perfect time is to really focus on you know what we want to do without children, and in order to put to your children as a dairy day, you know at least once a week you know half a time which is special for you, and your baby, or you know till difficult more than one and really have fun doing that, you know you spending that