Lorraine Thomas answers some questions about parenting.
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Catrina Skepper: We love hearing from you on the baby channel and as usual our mail is full to bursting with your questions about parenting, so we have invited one of countries leading parenting coaches the Lauraine Thomas, to ask your questions. Welcome Lauraine. Lauraine Thomas: Hi! Catrina Skepper:Again because I should say you will somebody with every parent would like to have a the end of the telephone and you probably here these sorts of questions often but down the less than that very concerning to the individual and I had I think quite distressing one in this week what I want to read at you “is that what about as she written and said we have lovely daughter Amy -- 6 months old everything should be perfect my husband and I seem to argue even the little things all time, the problem is me when he gets him from work I have no time energy left for him and he feels left out I am at home all day and so I don’t want and at the same time I feel -- enough time and this evenings, I just want to get Amy done and go to sleep my self. Lauraine Thomas: now that’s such a common feeling in with moms and dads Catrina, I think moms are all always in quite surprised to have tired they feel you know that up behave all day to come to baby and then I feel tired in evening -- Catrina Skepper: now your husband always they put him down -- Lauraine Thomas: yeah, an actually you know you are on the cot 24/7 on you say its there is good reason for wives, absolutely you -- and just want to cool in to bed, you know the end of the day, and lots of moms you know that I worked with they starts they said you know the sex is you know that top of my in a -- have -- poverties, and the possible might to do this, and the last thing in your mind is isn’t, and I think a lots of day moms and dads having a baby such a lot changing you know experience, that that’s when need a they can really feel that the relationship is under pressure, and you know -- the dad will feel that he pushed bit on packing all dress quite hard thing to comes Catrina Skepper: My chance is -- you are not house and not with the 3 children Lauraine Thomas: Yeah, and I think you know my moms take of themselves of lot of time and we need to make little bit -- but -- I think you know for moms who feeling on that, its really important that you create some you know mean time some special time, you know during the day you know or in the evening you know -- a strong support network you know somebody who can give a you know you are not sleep in the baby sleeps don’t do house work, you know, recharge your batteries you cant just keep giving ow, get giving own, you know because there are your relationships you know will feel astray, you really need to get give some time to stop. And you know and to give yourself rest so even if the baby sleeping sleep don’t do the house work, and you stop this often doing because you so much better, but you know -- put the another name mom using a similar situation, you know and you know and give your time to get for walk and you get to the shop or Catrina Skepper: what about talking to somebody during day and actually saying unloading a little bit with pressure and talking about with the another mom about the pressures, especially when it comes to evening time because you don’t your all the times talk with your phone and I think that’s one of the key thing so you need to make five or ten minutes of conversation which doesn’t include baby talk or you know telling our stressful you will days been in, make your partner. Lauraine Thomas: because I think you know what going to happen you are going to spend negative spiral cant and you get drew in to and it sort of comes tits for tat, cant -- you do that I have done that -- and it’s quite easy for still makes to do when you are in mom and dads not there, so much to do that can easily become a and so you, you don’t really you know stay and touch with you love about your partner so we know what I was -- toddlers ate to