Jenni Thomas discusses the topic of losing a child and how to overcome it.
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Julie Peasgood: Overcoming the loss of a child is the most heart breaking thing any parent can go through children are expected to grief the loss of parents not the other way around Mark and Lucy Quint tragically lost their 3 year old daughter Hassel 2 years ago we are also joined by Jenni Thomas OBE from child bereavement trust welcome to you all first of all can I just say a big thank you to you both Mark and Lucy for joining the and how much I feel and sympathizes with you both its such a difficult because such an important subject to talk about so thank you for joining us today. I have got a beautiful picture of Hassel here can I just show you that absolutely lovely she looks so like you to see tell us tell us about Hassel tell us what happened. Lucy: Well Hassel was a very healthy happy girl and she suddenly fell ill one Wednesday night during the night she came down with flu I rang the doctor and the next day I took her to the Dr. Sargero and he gave her some antibiotics and I looked after her on Thursday and Friday and Saturday she still didn't look very well so I rang the doctor the again and took her back down to the Sargero and they said that she needed to go to the hospital that he was quiet poorly I drive first straight to the hospital from the doctors which took less than five minutes and a nurse carried her into the children's ward and she was talking to the nurse about her birthday party that was coming up and she was looking forwards to, that's right yeah and within ten minutes and I getting into the children's ward her heart stopped and they tried for an hour to revive her but they couldn't. Julie Peasgood: This must Mark this must been the most awful shock, I mean she had flu on Wednesday and she is not with us anymore the weekend. Mark: Yeah I mean you talk it for granted that kids get illness and they get from and you know I was just a normal respond for annoy wasn't that. Lucy: When she came down. Mark: When she came down with the flu and she was fine, she was lying on the settee watching tele and she still saw for a two or three days you can know kind of felt looking back we always find that she was dying for three days and we didn't know but it wasn't the case she just had the flu and it developed into something far worse when she go to the hospital it was more I call though is which is I actually stopped her harm. Julie Peasgood: I was going to say what the final diagnosis was. Lucy: Myocarditis Mark: Myocarditis yeah and you can get it moldy and she was aware that came more called myocarditis. Julie Peasgood: And this when you first met Jenni from the child bereavement trust. Jenni Thomas: I didn't meet you then did I; it was a little bit later. Mark: Yeah it was probably it was before the funeral I guess but it might be a week or two later yeah because you know you are reeling so. Julie Peasgood: You must be absolutely as you say reeling with shock and you say you felt she was dying may be for few days did you suffer enormous guilt that did we do enough. Lucy: Yes Mark: We both did different things but. Lucy: Well I did unto some extend I still do I think that is as a parent you feel that you should care fro your children in every way that you can. Julie Peasgood: You took it to the doctor you got his verdict or her verdict. Lucy: Yes but I think there is something that distinct to within you that. Mark: You failed Lucy: Yeah, really Julie Peasgood: Yes and did the counseling help in that aspect. Mark: Definitely I mean we still need help we probably who I feel and you cant quiet put your finger on how it helps but just the process you go through I mean when we first meet Jenni she very much so guide us the bitter of how we needed to get through the next one or two weeks and then you know you suddenly realize you getting more and more help with the riots digest because it serves the best digest your grief and I mean apart from the practicalities of the funeral when we also had some press interestingl
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