When my wife gives me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than it feels good. Is there something wrong with me? Is she doing something wrong?
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Dan: Are you ready? Jennifer: Please don't do this every time-- Dan: I am ready! Jennifer: Steven, I got on to him because he was -- as soon as I was clicking record, he would start reading the question, so I got all out to him. Now he thinks he is a smart ***. Dan: In case everybody wonder who Steven is, that's the guy who does the often at on our videos, but anyway. Note to Steven, you are pretty cool, we like you. Okay, so oral sex, should it hurt? Thats a very unfortunate thing, damn. Jennifer: No, its shouldn't -- Dan: Okay, and this guy says, when I let my wife give me oral sex -- he lets her give him oral sex, okay, anyway, when my wife gives me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than it feels good. Jennifer: No wonder you are going to let her very often, that hurts. Dan: Now its going to say, how many guys are like, let her, man, what I wouldn't give for, anyway. So, when she gives me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than feel good. Man, is there something wrong with me? Jennifer: I don't know -- Dan: I don't know, but here is what I would ask -- Jennifer: I am the keeper off the notes -- Dan: Oh, she is the keeper of the answers or the questions, or both-- Jennifer: I hold all the answers -- Dan: I am going to leave it at that. Anyway, does it hurt just during oral sex, or does it hurt also during normal -- during penetration too, does that hurt during other sexual things. Does it hurt when you go pee-pee. Are there other times that it hurts because you know like if you car squeaks, you take it to a mechanic. If pee-pee hurts, you go to a doctor. Jennifer: Yeah, absolutely! Okay, if its hurting more than just during oral sex, please go see a doctor -- okay, we are not doctors, we cant tell you whats wrong in that case -- Dan: And we gave not examined you -- Jennifer: If this could be that she is not doing that right -- Dan: It could be, because all I have to say is, guys, just basic mechanical fact, we are talking somewhere on 500 pounds per square inch, there is space for a lot of pain there, if not done right. Jennifer: I mean, she could be using her teeth too much, she could be squeezing it too hard, bending it the wrong way, sucking too hard, I am sorry. Seriously, Dan: I am going to have nightmares. Jennifer: No what seriously, some women think when they are doing the blow job, that they are like supposed to suck on that as hard as they possibly can. Okay, that's not true, that's not it. Dan: Yeah, because actually in some other languages -- no, even in English come to think about, anyway whatever, you know what most people don't know how to do that, a very few people as far as I know, know how to do that right -- but -i know, anyway -- Jennifer: Oh, by the way, okay this is the plug, we don't do it very often, but take on the resources on our website, because we have really couple of good books for oral sex, for men and women -- Dan: Because, guys, well you know how to do well to girls, just ask any women. And girls, guys would like it when you do it, but most girls don't know how to do it very well. So on our site check out the Resources page, we have a couple of resources that should be required reading -- Jennifer: Should be required. It is actually, in the little nab in our side bar, we have like, required reading, okay. But talk to each other, okay, you know start over, pretend like you have never done it before, and guide her through it, tell her okay, you know -- start, people are going to get excited, but start licking, okay, suckle on that. Tell her what you like, okay -- Dan: Yeah, just to keep this useful but -- Jennifer: Start gently. Tell her lets start this very differently and try to figure out, because are you telling her that it hurts, because it sounds like he is not telling her -- Dan: Thats what it sounds like, he is wondering if there something wrong because that hurts and -- Jennifer: You go to talk to her and say, ouch, that hurts. Dan: Either you got to go see the doctor, or if it hurts in