Audra and Nicole talk about dating, marriage, ways to stay safe in love, and staying aware of your romantic situations. Take a look!
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Audra Lowe: Time for our hot topics you've got Nicole Williams your author of Girl on Top welcome back. Nicole William: Thank you. Audra Lowe: Thanks for sticking around. Nicole William: No, my pleasure. Audra Lowe: And I love your books because you give women a lot of good advice. Nicole William: Thank you. Audra Lowe: Dating career advice which women need all the time. It is, it was another woman that’s out there she's written a book you might have a little competition Nicole because where the title starts with the Girl Thing but its girl get that child support, the babies mama’s guided to tracking down a deadbeat finding his cash and making him pay every dollar that he owes you. Nicole William: That a long title there. I think there are going to be a lot of people buying and that's. Audra Lowe: Exactly but the thing is, she is an attorney. Nicole William: Yeah. Audra Lowe: And she's you know been in a lot of magazines, been on television before her name is Kathy Middleton and the book cover has picture of a check. Among other things she talks about when you're dating and or if you're married her thinking about marrying this guy. That you need to do a little background check find out what a Social Security number is find out the last yet he's few cities that he has lived in and making the model of his car. A lot of specific information about the guy because she's saying you knows guys could lie to you and you can get stuck in a situation you just. I feel like you're getting ready to marry a guy or if you have those suspicions that to be a red flag right there right, do you know suggest that women do had those. Nicole William: You know what I love you know frankly, I'm probably one of those people who likes to protect themselves and— Audra Lowe: Which is nothing wrong with that? Nicole William: More like control oriented so I'm probably yes or going to no but I totally agree with you if you had an inkling that this person is going to absolutely vanish from your life and not take care of you and your child I would and I would guess that that's probably not that right guy. Audra Lowe: Yes see the book actually helps you to prove that he's the father of your baby which I think really again. Nicole William: Really, again, seriously. Audra Lowe: At that point you might not just not, don’t worry about buying a book it might—tracked down a deadbeat when you know. Money gets money from him if he's unemployed and gets money from him. Nicole William: If he’s unemployed maybe you shouldn’t be dating him. Audra Lowe: Right. Nicole William: When maybe that's—maybe not the guy for me. Audra Lowe: Maybe the title should be girls, leave her alone all yeah. Nicole William: Yeah, exactly. Audra Lowe: But I don't know at what state are we in where we actually need to have books like this to teach women that you need to do this follow up and not just go with your instincts maybe—there would something are right there in front of your face. Nicole William: Well this is obviously happening which is, is sort of a sort of a sad state of affairs frankly but yeah, if you really, honestly. Audra Lowe: There's an intelligent woman out there that need to get taken, I mean that there's a lot cut people out there and it goes both ways. Nicole William: Yes, when you fall love with someone I think sometimes you can be blinded to what's right up there in front of you and all of a sudden he's gone and you need to get. Some child support so yes, I got out got. Audra Lowe: That's what we're not buying. Nicole William: The word girl was being used quite a bit of this. Audra Lowe: There's sticky another sticky situation wants to help up out, with a lot of people have been saying especially with the holidays around a lot of people have kids there kids have fundraisers and everyone's asking everyone to help with their child. Either you’re on a tight budget or you could spend too much money how do you get out of that actually situation. Nicole William: It’s such a tou