In this video, Andrea Syrtash gives you tips on how to let a shy guy know you're interested.
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Hi, I'm Andrea Syrtash, author of He's Just Not Your Type, And That’s A Good Thing, with Ask Your Tango answering your love and relationship questions. Today’s question is from touch of sophistication, should women make the first move? Should I wait for him to make the first move or should I go for it. I'm traditionally old fashioned, but I'm also getting a bit impatient. He's a shy guy, so I can give him that. But we're in the stage of the relationship where I feel like he's into me too, but neither of us are sure if the other likes the other. Great question. Now since you identified the fact that you're a little old fashioned and I don’t want you to feel like you have to be someone completely who you are not. That will probably not go so well, make you uncomfortable. I think there is a great way to let someone know you're interested without flat out leaning in for a kiss or making a move or saying it. And I actually think if a guy is interested in you, even if he's shy, they’ll start to pursue. So you can gently help him along by being very encouraging. Complimenting him. Mentioning wonderful things about your relationship. There's a way to drop hints and he’ll probably pick up on the fact that you're ready to be pursued. But I don’t think it means you have to totally throw out your old fashioned values and become a vixen. Just let him come to you, but make sure you send a lot of positive signals. Flirt, flirt, flirt. There's nothing wrong with flirting with a friend you like.