Parents TV talks to two fathers about how they experienced their wives' pregnancies.
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She is one with child, but it takes too to make a baby. So what's he thinking during those 9 months? Tom Bair: I am glad women go through this, because I am speaking from a man's perspective, I could never deal with this, I could never. I couldn't deal with it emotionally, I certainly couldn't do it physically, I couldn't do it, I can't believe how my wife does this, or really any women who is able to do this. Give you all the credit in the world, because I know I couldn't. Michael Knott: There is all kinds of different levels of emotion that are involved, for me, it was really exciting with the whole concept of what was going to happen and the change in our family, the addition to our family, that was all very exciting, it was also scary. Tom Bair has gone through two pregnancies with wife Tourine. Tom Bair: It was - it's tough, it's a - there are a lot of great things about it, she her body structure changed, chemicals changed and a lot of things were going through. The hard thing is in fact, I don't know what she is going through, you read about it and but if it's not actually happening to you, it is sort of hard to put yourself in your wife's position. He says when it comes to pregnancy the bottom line is be there for her. Tom Blair: When your body is going through this and you are carrying extra weight so I don't think, rub her legs, rub her feet, rub her back, you know just be there as a support system. But emotionally just I would tell her she is beautiful at that time, she is beautiful, but I would tell her all the time that how wonderful she is and how beautiful she is. Michael Knott who has two sons with wife Caroline agrees. Michael Knott: Your wife is going to have a lot of emotions and the best thing is to just kind of go over the flow. I think that's the best advice, you also have to listen to your wife, because she knows her body better than anybody. If she needs to go to the doctor, just don't argue with her on anything. Anne Ebeling: Another pregnancy point both men agree on is that no matter how many pillows you have its tough to get a good night sleep when you are sharing your bed with a pregnant woman. Tom Bair: Physically it's not the same with me, I am not going through the same thing, but if my wife turns, I turn. She can't be on one side, she can't lie on her back, you are putting through a sacrifice, it's a wonderful thing to happen to a couple, you are pregnant with a beautiful child, but it's not easy. Michael Knott: It's difficult, because she's got a lot more, she would get water more and she would toss and turn more, when I would wake up, it was just was an adjustment. Tom says he wanted to experience everything he could with Tourine during her pregnancy. Tom Bair: I made a point of going to every single visit of my wife's doctor's appointments. So I would leave work whatever and any sign ever taken, I was there and that was important to me, because again, I figured my wife is taking off, she is getting all the stuff done, and I want to be part as much part of the experience as possible. And I know it's a little thing, and she will tell you, that mean a lot to her. And both Tom and Michael were at their wife's sides in the delivery room. Tom Bair: I definitely want to be in that delivery room and if wife is going through what she is going through, and we are in this together, absolutely together, I want to be there. Michael Knott: It's just the Cesar of the baby was - it was just, it's one of those things that just invokes emotion, it's just - that was just amazing. It's one of those things that's like looking at the Grand Canyon, you go, Wow! That's amazing. Michael says it gave him a new found respect for his wife. Michael Knott: I looked at her and it's just like a powerful woman, like the first kind of thing is like, how did you do that? For me I was like this level of respect I would imagine every guy kind of feels that seeing a birth, and what she goes through and thinking,