Lucy Atkins discusses the topic of planning the birth of your baby.
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Nina Sebastiane: Giving birth should be one of the most fantastic experiences that a woman will ever have. But for some the whole process can turn into a worst, a complete nightmare and a best, a bit of a let down. Lucy Atkins is the author of Blooming Birth and she has written a book to help you take control of your birthing experience and she is here with us today. Welcome to the Baby Channel Lucy. How does one begin to plan for something that's so unpredictable and so unlike any other experience you go through? Lucy Atkins: Right. Well, I think that's the key issue in a way you can't. There is absolutely nothing you can do in a way because you don't know what's going to happen to you, you don't know what's going to happen to your body. If your baby lies in the one position that's going to mean something completely different happens from what you might want to happen. So there is an element about birth that you just can't do anything about. But that doesn't mean you can't prepare for it and there is just of tons of stuff you can be doing to get your head around it, to learn enough about it, so that things don't shock you. Things that are quite normal things that happen to almost every woman in child birth that you don't about that freak you out. And if you've learnt about them in advance, you can have a much better time, you can cope much better. So I think this sure answer is you can't control it, that you can't really, really plan for it but you can do a awful lot to prepare for yourself emotionally and practically to have a much better experience than you would if you didn't. Nina Sebastiane: Yeah. Research suggests and I know from my personal experience that fear was the thing that really got to me. It was really the fear of pain I suppose that I was most freaked about and had to deal with before the actual labor. Lucy Atkins: You're completely normal because 8 out of 10 women in survey say that they found it much more terrifying. They found birth a terrifying experience. The first time moms, that is 8 out of 10 who have said that. I think that is not, it's not a simple answer but it's largely because in advance we don't face up to the fact that we're absolutely terrified. It's a very frightening thing to think. You've go this huge baby in your tummy, has got to come out. Nina Sebastiane: I know it's delirious to think how that will be work. Lucy Atkins: Yeah. It's got to freak you out. Nina Sebastiane: I found in three- four months. Lucy Atkins: And the fact, I think probably, well a lot of us do is we think when we just got it; there is only one or two ways the baby can come out. We're just got to get through it, so we mustn't be frightened, we must not think about the fact that we're frightened. And I think that's a huge mistake because if you're suppressing your fears, you don't actually work out what's going to make you feel better during childbirth, how you're going to get through the experience calmly. And you end up therefore having a much more sort of emotionally fraud experience than you would if you've to, so this is what's I'm frightened of and this is what I'm going to do to cope with it. Nina Sebastiane: Do you think that in Britain that we're specifically good at focusing on the negative. I know any soap that you watch. If they do it, if it is a drama or about a birth or labor, there is always something going wrong. Isn't it? Lucy Atkins: Yeah. I've got a whole section on that because there was actually a study about childbirth in the media and it was an academic study that showed that the portrayal of childbirth in the media is so can widely out of guilt and what actually happens. You get this sort of insane births where somebody in the TV show they go into labor and two minutes later the baby is born. Nina Sebastiane: Yeah. Lucy Atkins: And the reality for most of us, is that we were in labor for three days. Nina Sebastiane: It's a lot longer than that. Lucy Atkins: We say, we're in labor for three d