Learn disciplinary techniques that help parents in this series of parenting advice videos.
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Host: What are some disciplinary techniques that can help parents? Julie Greenlee: I think it's important to start out with what I mean by discipline. I am not talking about any punitive punishments, not talking about delivering consequences, we will talk about how to develop and how to deliver consequences that are effective. But when we talk about disciplining difficult kids, what we're talking about is how do we raise them, to empower them to make decisions, empower them to make good choices. We want to be role models as parents and caretakers and we can do that through three tools which I'm going to talk a lot more about in some future clips. We do that through sharing control with kids, by allowing them to make many choices throughout the day. The other way that we can do that is we change our noes, which are exhausting, into yeses. We do that through what Love and Logic calls Enforceable Statements. In addition, we use strategic planning with other parents, with other community members to make sure that our kids are receiving real life consequences for the decisions that they make as well as natural consequences. We waste so much of our time and energy with difficult kids, trying to come up with something that's going to make them uncomfortable, when really their choice is what should leave them feeling uncomfortable. We want to make sure that we're in a position with our kids that we work with, that we can be the one that gives them all the love, all the attention, and that their bad choices leave them feeling really sad. We can do that by delivering empathetic statements, which we're going to talk about. I'm going to give you one-liners which will save you all the energy in the world so that you can focus on being happy in your family. I'm also going to provide you with some other techniques which are going to allow you to stay on top, and your kid is going to lose a lot more battles with you.