Learn About Sex Roles and Personality Video

Kinky or not, there's a power dynamic in sex. A dom makes all the moves while the sub let's it happen. We can be both though, taking control and relinquishing it during a session. How much do our roles resemble our personality?
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Juicy Talk for Women Cherry TV.com Cherry Dish Hear the women discuss what submissiveness in a bedroom means to them. Female 1: You're involved with a man right now, correct? Female 2: Yes. Female 1: And that you also said that you're submissive in this relationship. Female 2: In the bedroom, yes. Female 1: Right. Female 2: No, not right out of the bed, basically not. Female 1: Did you have? Was that just kind of like, you just feel into those roles or was there any kind of conversation about it? Female 2: I mean, I don’t remember any specific conversation but it’s sort of like I feel that I go into a relationship with men. When I go to my relationship with men knowing that that’s what I’m looking for. And so I approach it being like, well I want X, Y and Z. And like, not that I sort of say that specifically but the way that I guide and experience is like, “Okay, I’m putting you in a position of power. How are you going to deal with it?” And I guess in some ways, I do exert some kind of dominant behavior at some times but for me it’s a lot about like, oh, I want you to tell me what to do. I want to make your fantasy come true. I want to do this, I want to do that, I want to be the object, because that’s what’s really appealing for me. Female 3: What’s his personality like? I mean because in my experience a lot of times, people who are like, the reverse of what we’re talking, people who are tops in sheets are more quite personality wise. Is that true for him? Female 2: I mean in this case, in this case, my particular partner is actually extremely shy. And I think that, and I don’t know that he would’ve necessarily said he was a dominant person in bed, I think it was more stuff that I brought out because I was like, “This is what I want.” But I’ve dated -- who were extremely outgoing and extremely like personable. So for me I mean I’ve seen it both ways. Female 4: I’ve seen it both way, but my partner right who’s dominant in the bedroom is also shy in person. And we did have a conversation about it. Female 3: I think there is a Yin and Yang thing, like you were talking about. Female 5: The first thing I said to my girlfriend at the bar, I ask her if she was a top or a bottom, and she said bottom. And she said, “What are you?” and I just walked off. So, it was love at first sight, like she wanted to be misused and you know, I didn’t have to answer her, you know. We’re cute. Female 1: Have you always been a top? Female 5: You know, I was back and forth switching a lot. And then I had a lot of time with certain dominatrix and I was a bottom. Heavy bottom, taking it all, and then I finally understood what bottoming was and how it felt to break and pain and how to do it, and then I was able to top in the bedroom. And now that’s all I want to do. Female 4: And as a top, you get off sexually. Female 5: Oh yes. Oh yes. Female 4: See for me, I think because I denied the fact that I want to be submissive and that’s what turns me on, it was really, a part of where there’s I felt like I have to being true also was clearly trust that my partner would get off on being dominant. Because I didn’t really, like psychologically I could but physically it didn’t really turn me on and so I didn’t trust that it with someone else. Female 5: It’s hard and they say that like, “That got you off?” And then I just direct their hand and show them that yes I’m wet, here it is. It worked you know. Juicy Talk for Women Cherry TV.com

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